Post # 1
How do these work?
My FI and I aren’t too hip to us doing a solo first dance together. My FI and FMIL do want to do a mother son dance. My father is deceased so I’d be skipping a father daughter dance. I don’t want it to be like a focal point that my dad isn’t around to dance with me. I don’t want guests to notice a difference or an absence (no pity or sorrow). So maybe these group dances are a good solution.
Do we just have the DJ invite certain people to join at the end of the mother-son song and transition into a new song chosen for the group dance? My FFIL would cut-in to dance with FMIL and I would join my FI. Our small wedding party, our siblings, and my mom would all join. Is it this simple?
Did I just answer my own question?!
Post # 3
@yehyehgirl: I like your idea!
Post # 4
I don’t really like the idea of having all eyes on us for our first dance, so I’m considering having the DJ making an announcement asking everyone to come out on the dance floor to celebrate with us. I figure it might help kick off the dancing and would take some pressure off us. I just feel like it would be boring for everyone to watch us slow dance for 3 mins and doing a choreographed dance would make us both too self conscious. And FMIL sadly passed away 2 years ago so doing a formal dance with my dad might just draw attention to that (I’ll dance with him if he’s up for it, just with other people on the dancefloor too)
Post # 5
@Polygon: Thank you!
@aliciaspinnet: Yep – same here on all accounts.
Post # 6
Oh I am so with you! I hate the idea of a first dance but my mom convinced my fiancé that we have to do one. Ugh. I think I’ll just get our parents and wedding party to do it with us so it’s less awkward. But it’s still hella awkward to me.
Post # 7
I didn’t want to do a first dance either, but my DH insisted.
DH’s brother was our “dj” – he used an ipod and put together the song list. Halfway through our song he announced for our parents to come out. They danced with each other for a bit then I danced with my dad, and DH with his mom. Then we brought out the bridal party and pretty soon, everyone was dancing.
It was still akward as I was crying throughout our song, but it made it more bearable by the fact we were only dancing by ourselves for a short time.
Post # 8
@yehyehgirl: DH and I did a first dance and then did a “family dance” like you’re describing. I started to dance with my dad, DH with his mom, then my FIL cut in and danced with me, dad danced with GF, our wedding party got up and danced with their SO’s…other people got up to dance and we switched up partners a couple of times, it was nice.
Post # 9
@yehyehgirl: I like the idea. Have you considered having a mother-daughter dance instead?
Post # 10
@Pinkmoon: Right – that’s basically what I’m considering! It seems more fun to me than just the two of us.
@SnowInApril: That is a good approach too, you get a little of both scenarios that way. I’m scared to death I’m going to cry through everything!
@Goofball: I’m super into switching up partners. It’s not something I’d attempt to choreograph but ideally it would happen organically.
@Brace2014: Thanks! I have heard of mother daughter dances but its just not our style. We’re very close but my mom would say “I want to dance with a MAN!” lol. She would think its “silly” to dance with a female.
Thanks for the replies everyone.