(Closed) Group Wedding Dances: Tacky Or Not?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

I don’t think tacky is the right word. Cheesy might be better?

Personally I will clap and laugh along with other guests but do I really enjoy them- not so much.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think they  can be fun, however its better to have a mix of group dances and non group dances. That way even people who don’t know the group dance can still get out on the floor.

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Not tacky.  But, ridiculous!?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with @j_jaye:  – tacky isn’t the right word. I do think they’re cheesy but if she really wants to do it, it is her wedding. 

Oh, I will say that it is possible for them to actually be highly entertaining and fun…it’s just that usually they just don’t turn out that way

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s her wedding and she can do what she wants. But only if the other girls (or guys) want to do it. It’s bridezilla-ish if she’s asking BMs to do this when they don’t want to (I’m not saying that’s what’s happening). But if the bride and bridesmaids (or some BMs) want to do it, let them have their fun I say.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I wont lie- I dreamed of doing this.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We have been debating doing this. My FI is worried that it will be us and 2 other people. We are running out of time to have everyone learn a dance so we might skip it just for those reasons.

I think it would be fun but loads more fun for the people who are in it, but maybe not so much for those who are watching it.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I think if she kept it short and sweet, people would think it was cute. If it became a huge production, I might be a little put-off by it.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I love to dance at weddings, so I get annoyed by just about anything that prevents me from doing that. So at our wedding, we kept the “official” dances short, and got through the bouquet and garter tosses in record time. If I had to get my happy ass off the dance floor YET AGAIN to watch some bizarre and perhaps terrible choreographed dance, I might be irritated by this. BUT …. if it was really well done, that might be super awesome! The problem is, as PP have mentioned, they usually, well, aren’t awesome at all.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Honestly, if I hadn’t seen it everywhere (TV, YouTube, newspaper, wedding stuff) i’d think it was hilarious – as long as it fit the couple. However, it’s been done to death and it just seems unoriginal, to me at least. Regardless, to each his own – and if its something she really, really wants – let her! 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

You mean like where the whole wedding party does a choreographed routine? Like a “wedding Thriller” type of thing? Honestly I think, for a certain type of wedding and a certain type of crowd, those may have been a fun surprise the first few times people did them but now that there are 1,000,000 of those on youtube it seems pretty trite. I would not be impressed. 

I’ve seen some dances on youtube where the bride and groom are, like, awesome lindy hoppers and they have a bunch of friends who are also awesome lindy hoppers who join in the first dance at a certain point. That’s cool because those people can really dance so it’s fun to watch and it’s not done for camp.

If I were going to do a silly dance I’d rather include everyone rather than make people sit and watch a few people doing a silly dance.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

Not tacky, but definitely overdone, and usually poorly executed.  Usually they are people who can’t dance, trying to execute moves that are too hard for them.

As a guest I just pray for it to end to get to the really fun stuff.

But of course outwardly, I clap and smile and act like it’s wonderful.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I don’t like calling things tacky because everyone has different tastes, but this is absolutely NOT something I would ever do. I’d also feel super awkward and embarrassed if I was asked to participate in one. 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

They can be cute.  FI stood up in a wedding a few years ago.  They had the wedding party do a really short one – less than a minute.

It was a hodgepodge of a bunch of different songs which made it even funnier.

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