- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
Ok so we sent out 88 invitations April 20 with an rsvp date of May 18 and we are still missing 37 rsvp’s. Most of them I’m not going to bother to track down because I know they aren’t coming. Our wedding is in my hometown, we live in NC and FI’s family lives in CA. But…we don’t have have rsvp’s from the majority of the wedding party. Not even FI’s sister has sent in her rsvp and it was like pulling teeth to get his parents to rsvp!!! One groomsman backed out on us and still couldn’t send in the freakin card. Another groomsman still hasn’t given us an answer! My boss actually asked me…if my answer is no I don’t have to send it in right?
So I’m trying to chase down a few people because it’s a toss up whether they’re coming or not. Now here’s the thing, kids aren’t really invited but there will be some kids there. I have 4 kids in the wedding party so obviously they’ll be at the reception but seriously 3 of them are my brother’s kids and he’s flying from California where they have absolutely no family. Even if they weren’t in the wedding I’m not going to be like yeah leave your kids at home. The 4th little girl that’s in the wedding party will be at the reception and so will her little brother but he’s only 9 months old it isn’t like we’re going to be charged for him lol. And another couple coming from California is bringing their 7 month old but they’re also bringing the grandmother and aunt to watch the child while they’re at the wedding. And my cousin from Maine is bringing her 13 year old, um yeah she’s coming from a different state and bringing my aunt which is my late father’s last remaining sibling, can’t exactly leave her at the hotel room.
So my other cousin who lives about an hour from the wedding who has not yet rsvp’d has two kids around 11 and 13 I’d guess. I’m not close with her, haven’t seen her in years but my mom is pretty close with her and since I invited her and her grandmother and her brother of course I invited her. So my mom emails her and asks about her rsvp and this is the response we get Sorry…I have been very busy with baseball and softball..UMMMM are kids invited???Are the kids on the invitation…no! Are you trying to imply that you won’t be coming if kids aren’t invited? Fine don’t come then. Unfortunately I can’t tell her that because if she doesn’t bring the kids and sees the other kids it’ll be the end of the freakin world. I’m getting so sick of trying to make everybody happy. I rarely say “it’s my day” but you know what, it’s my freakin day, quit thinking of just yourself for once and just answer the question. You weren’t responsible enough to call me earlier and ask about kids, you decide to wait until someone contacts you a week after the rsvp due date then clearly you don’t give a crap. I’ve seen your facebook posts about going out and going to the lake and this and that. Don’t tell me you’re too busy to write yes or no on a card and stick it in an envelope that is already addressed and stamped. So no you don’t get to bring your kids because I didn’t invite them and didn’t account for them in my estimated budget because you didn’t feel the need to take the time out of your going out, smoking cigars and boating to figure out what you’re going to do that day.
Then my sister sends me a message on facebook asking if her son (he’s 18 so he doesn’t count as a kid) can bring his girlfriend. They already rsvp’d for 3 people, it is 3 weeks before the wedding, why didn’t this come up before? She was actually very tactful about it and said she’d completely understand if it was too late etc etc so I’m not upset and I might actually let him bring her because I remember what it was like to be that age. And it’ll keep him occupied instead of trying to talk our ears off. But still…was he dating this girl when we sent out the invitations?