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Can I just slap the daylights out of this woman yet?

Yesterday DH called MIL and found out that she was admitted to the hospital last week for a few days and the doctors think it might be diabetes and Lupus.  And what was my first thought? "W(hy)TF did she not call you!"  I know I was a bad wife but I hope I made up for it later.  Of course my brain starts swirling around with all sorts of questions and confusion and I can't let a sleeping dog lie.  Did she have any intentions of letting him know?

I'm thinking either she made this up or told everyone not to tell him.  There's no way she could have gone to the hospital secretly without at least a few family members knowing.  No WAY.  In the past, she would have kept DH in the loop 200% but I guess she is keeping true to her threat that if she needed help or anything she sure as heck won't be calling DH.  DH has been there time and time again for her when she needed whatever.  But last year she made a huge deal about how she hasn't been able to count on him and she knows that if she were to ever need help, he would not come through for her so she's not even going to bother asking and would commit suicide in order not to burden him.  She was successful at making her son feel like a pile of doo doo, that's for sure.

Could this be for attention?  Last Sunday was Mothers Day.  In the past when she was nice to me, we would travel to see her but didn't last year and this year.  "All" DH sent was a card, no gift, and she may have received it after Mothers Day on Monday because DH forgot to mail them and they weren't sent until Friday or Saturday.  He did call a few times on Mothers Day to talk to her.  Is her not calling him some form of punishment?

I know she's a whackadoodle but come on!  Your son isn't something to sh!t on every time.  Why he continues to put up with your bullsh!t is beyond me.  I know some people want privacy and don't tell everyone in their life when they have surgery (I've done this) but she isn't like that.

Of course I have no intentions of bring this up with DH unless he brings it up but I'm JUST SO FRSUTRATED!!

Well now I'm not sure if it was even her that told him because he keeps mentioning talking to his brother so maybe he called his brother and he was the one that told him.  I don't know.  He hasn't said much about it since the other night.

All she does is guilt and manipulate people so you both are spot on.  Additionally my friends daughter has kidney issues and at first they thought it was Lupus but it ended up not being.  They would have had to do a kidney biopsy to know for sure.

Tanya- She was not happy about us getting married and was a nightmare at the wedding.  Every chance she had she never forgot to ask DH "This is the only time I will ask you this but are you sure you want to marry Pendola?"  Of course it happened every couple of weeks.  So she hasn't been very happy about not being #1 anymore but at the same time she has done several things to DH that shows how low of a priority he is to her and it hurts him.