Post # 1
I am getting stressed. I have 6 bridesmaids and 2 MOH’s. It’s just more than 2 months prior to the wedding and NO ONE has even offered to help, except my sister one of the MOH’s. I need to send out invites next week, need to figure out decor, tons of last minute decisions need to be made and no one seems to want to help. What gets me more is one of my bridesmaids is a cousin, who got married in April and i was one of her bridesmaids. I helped address her invites, helped with one of her showers, planned her bachelorette party and she hasn’t done anything. Myself, mom and sister have done everything thus far. It just upsets me, it seems like no one cares, or everyone is SOO busy in their own lives to care about helping out with the wedding. Isn’t that one of the bridesmaid responsibilities? Should i have to ask? Or am i just being a BIG baby? I guess i just had this image that when i got married all of my best friends(who are all in the wedding) would help out and we would spend extra time together and it would be so much fun…but it hasn’t been thus far. 🙁
Post # 3
I would ask them if they could help out. How will they what you need help with until you ask them, you know? I hope you get al the help you need!
Post # 4
You’re gonna have to open your gob and ask. Sure they’re thoughtless/preoccupied/busy/whatever. You’ve too little time – just make a list of what needs doing, start making phone calls and crossing stuff off!
Post # 5
Maybe I do not understand the whole situation. Could it be that they are waiting for some direction from you? They might be willing to help, but are not sure what needs to be done and don’t want to assault you with questions. They might figure you will let them know what you need/want, when you need/want to spend time together, etc. I don’t know about your bridesmaids, but most of my friends would wait to be told/asked what to do. I wouldn’t get too down on them unless you have asked for help and they said no.
Ask for what you need, they might surprise you. Good luck!
Post # 6
Have you asked anyone to help? if any of the brides had asked me to help i was right there but of course i always extended the offer. My SIL hasnt really asked for any of our help i tried to offer but after her telling me no its ok then i just stopped.
Maybe they dont wanna ask because of they cant afford to help?
i would def maybe talk to all of them and ask if they could help. maybe even tell them hey i just need an extra hand etc.
( i myself thought the same thing. i thought everyone would go with me to try on dresses and help me look at venues and help me pick out stuff to this day only ONE Bridesmaid or Best Man has helped. i want to so bad make her my Maid/Matron of Honor but i wanna wait to the day gets closer.)
sorry you feel this way **hugs**