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    LOGAHN1981    November 18, 2011   Richmond, VA

    Morning Bees,

     

    So last night I get a call from my mom saying "I have a problem, I told such and such about your wedding and she thinks she's invited, I told her that it was just a small family wedding nothing big and I'm guessing she didn't get the jist because she proceeded to say 'It's my b-day that day and I took the whole day of I wont tell anyone where the wedding is or anything just let me know when and where I need to be, what gifts do I get her.. and my mom says so how do I tell her she's not invited".. Ugh it's already bad enough that my guestlist was supposed to be 80 to 90 people tops.. We now have 66 people that will def be there. It's a cocktail reception so the tables and placement wouldn't be an issue *there will only be four useable tables for those to sit around and eat if they want. Everyone else can sit in the chairs or stand up and mingle. The caterer is going on the count of 100 just in case the extra people show up etc. Plus she will make over that amount. However the place only holds 80 seated at tables and 100 for a cocktail reception. With only 80 bankuet chairs in the building. So I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. Do I go ahead and let her come. Even though I haven't gotten the total head count ... Or do I tell my mom to explain to her that "the guest list is slowly climbing and I've decided to only have immediate family and aunt, uncles and close friends of him and I to the wedding"

     

    Then I have the other issue of should I rent more chairs? Borrow folding chairs from my uncle and get some chair covers just to make sure that everyone could sit. Or not worry about it, it's a cocktail reception, people arent really supposed to sit they are supposed to the the heavty hor'dvores (sp) and mingle, dance and have a great time. I know everyone will let the older people and wedding party sit at the tables so that's not an issue. But I know people will want to sit..

     

    Uhh help me sister bees!!!

     
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    slicey19      

    Don't stress. How many people did you invite in total? When is your RSVP deadline? You said you have 66 coming and the venue holds 100  but sits 80. Unless you invited 150 and have not had any nos untial now, I would not be worried just yet. If you wan to have a back up plan, contact the chair rental people and get a quote. Ask them if you could let them know 10 days in advance if you will need to rent the 20 chairs. I don't think you will have to actually worry unless no  one is saying no. With out assigned seating you can really make a last minute decision on this one.

     
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    LOGAHN1981    November 18, 2011   Richmond, VA

    @slicey19 - thanks... the RSVP date is this Sunday so we will see.. I think the total invite list was around 90 people, but I knew 5 or more of those would say no and so far they have. Yeah it's not assigned seating just casual cocktail atmosphere. Maybe I'm worry a bit to much.. Now to figure out if I should allow the person that is supposed to have invited herself.

     

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