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@zippylef: OMG love it!
Loving all the cuteness!
But in all seriousness, I agree with @quirkyparsnip that all boards have threads that show up that I avoid because I don't want to stir things up. If I don't like a thread that I've read, I just don't comment on it.
@MandaMack: I never said I didn't like it and didn't want to read it at all. I was giving a solution and pointing out fault in the accusations made. The exact point made by the OP.
@MissAsB: I agree!
I know sometimes I ready posts that I just say, "Yea I better just click out of this one." Wedding planning can be stressful, that is a given. But like we are all here to BEE together, and stress, and cry, and giggle way through it.
LOLZ! "All ur warmz dispensurz...ROTFL!!"
Thanks DDW, you definitely sent this thread in the right direction!
And with that...let's not be elitests ladies:
I'd just like to say, as long as we're totally off topic, I love the "help me pick my dress posts." I don't comment very much, but they're the reason I lurk around still.
Yeah, my hackles go up when a bride starts a post ranting because someone in her bridal party offended her by not "helping" enough, not allowing the bride to incessantly talk about her wedding plans to the exclusion of everything else, not buying her a present, etc, and then all the posters responding say something like, you sound unreasonable and self absorbed, could that be the problem? (although, since most bees are nice, they say it a bit more diplomatically). The bride then always responds with a defensive, angry rant about how we don't know her life. She doesn't want to be told perhaps she is the problem, she wants a bunch of people to validate her angry feelings.
I agree to a point.
Yes, I agree that many people will post questions or ask for opinions, and sure, they tend to get angry when people go against their ideal or do not give them the proper "support", or think no one cares. A lot of the time, some people are just looking for re-assurance, and to know someone else in the wedding planning world is in the same shoes.
However, I think the bulk of the problems come from the fact that it's not what people are saying, it's how they are saying it.
Classic example:
OP: "We can't afford an open bar, so we are going to do a cash bar. How do you recommend we spread the word for people to bring money?"
... gets replied to with such things as:
"You're a horrible host and you should be paying for people's drinks!"
"CASH BARS ARE TACKY!"
"I would be really pissed if I went to a bar and had to pay for my alcohol!"
Or, my favourite - "I would put it in the program... but in my opinion I HATE CASH BARS!"
NOT WHAT THE OP ASKED! She asked how she should spread the word! She didn't ask for everyone's opinion on whether she should have a cash bar!
The real problem with people getting angry and making rude comments in "advice" threads, I think, is the influx of unwarranted opinions and people neglecting to answer the questions at hand. Instead, side issues arise, people tackle those, they snowball, and before you know it, the whole thread is suddenly about something completely different and the OP is getting bashed.
@One2-Three4:YOu have a good point about people getting off topic answering a question that wasn't asked. But I totally agree with the PP's that a lot of young brides start threads basically asking for justification for getting married so young. I personally do the same thing Mrs. Asb does, I jsut ignore it because I know if I say my real opinion they will just get mad that people disagree with them.
Wow - I didn't sign on after I left work last night and this thread completely took off! And I love the animal pictures! Gave me a good laugh to start the work day! 
The great thing about an online site is that if a post is bugging you, you can quickly X out of it. :)
@LacrosseBride: Thank you so much for posting what you did. I had the exact same thought as I was reading through this thread.
Edited to add: This thread has taken a very strange turn...
@MightySapphire: OMG that's the sweetest picture! i am "awww-ing" at the cute animals over and over again..
and i have to agree--the my little pony one is pretty impressive. kind of makes me want to try that with my guinea pigs after i've had a glass of wine (or two)...
@LacrosseBride: AHAHAHAHAHA!!! +10 internets for you! I absolutely despised that thread she wrote, I stumbled in there and couldn't find my way out, read through a bunch of whiney self-serving crap and emerged gasping for a fresh breath of sanity. nice catch.
then:
"To all of you well-meaning posters that like to drop in waiting threads and shake your fingers at those of us feeling anxious and frustrated, telling us to just stop feeling the way we do: KNOCK IT OFF. You are making me f'n CRAZY!"
now:
Especially with threads regarding "young" brides (early twenties) and waiting threads. Some posters just really don't want to hear what most of the rest of us plainly see.
hilarious.
:) i just cant help myself
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@Mrs.Alias - yes but again - not what the post started about It has somehow turned into a thread about young brides/waiting girls/etc...
Case in point.
Well, it's not like we have to pay to be on this site, it's a free place where everyone can post. If you don't like the thread, just don't click it. I am sure the OP was in the same place as those on Waiting and probably could understand why some act the way they do.
@casteel_dream: Nope, actually I don't. As I said earlier - I tend to avoid the waiting boards (among other types of posts too) as I have found that to be a very common place where I get the reaction I described in my OP (although certainly not the only place). I don't think too many of the ladies over there would appreciate my thoughts on their thoughts. 
Wow! Who knew the waiting board was so controversial on the 'bee. I feel unwanted. 
I wouldn't make a generalization about what's posted there. If you don't know what if feels like to wait, well good for you! Skip the post and move on. If you do then perhaps you have an understanding about what the poster is feeling and in the end that's all people really want - to be understood. Not everyone that is waiting is whining about their relationship or wants to be convinced to stay in a bad one. I think that's unfair.
@jjilyeah: The postings got a little 'snarky' so we lightened the mood with cute animals! lol And then we got a little carried away..
@jjilyeah: I never said I didn't understand what it feels like to wait - I was pre-engagement at one point too ... I don't understand the thoughts and feelings of the ladies that post to the waiting board (and this really isn't a generalization - it applies to pretty much every waiting post I read). I've been there, done that and am still shocked by what I read in these posts. Why I said I don't tend to comment on them - but I'm still free to have those thoughts about them.
And just so you know - the waiting boards are NOT what prompted my OP, but they do often fall into the same senario I vented on.
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