Post # 1
K so last night I was working on my invites with FI and his mom came down to see what we were doing. I show her my invites and she says the map/directions are not necessary since everyone know their way around. I explained I have a lot of people coming from out of town and its just a courtesy to them she just shrugged and gave it back. I then went on to tell her about my rehearsal dinner/bbq idea and she just had the most blank look on her face ever. SHE DOESN”T KNOW WHAT A REHEARSAL DINNER IS! Omg I was so beyond annoyed I get in our culture rehearsal dinners aren’t a big deal but to not even KNOW what I was talking about? She doesn’t get the concept no matter how much I explain it so I give up. She then goes on to ask about what the groom and groomsmen are wearing I said black tux, black shirt and purple vest..she laughs and says “like a funeral!”. I am so annoyed everything I do I have to explain it to his family who just don’t get “it”. At firrst it was fine and I even thought it was cute but now its just frustrating since they really can’t help out since they don’t know what to do! Oh…she didn’t get the blowing bubbles instead of rice thing either *sigh*
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2010 - Signature Events
Maybe you can buy her some fun-to-flip-through wedding books? I’ve seen some specifically for mothers of the groom. Or you could mark something in one of your wedding books/magazines for her to look at…and let her keep it for the week. Your wedding shower or showers might be a good opportunity to share more about wedding-culture with her! You’ll have other people by your side to second your ideas and make them seem less outlandish. : )
Post # 4
I feel ya. I had an umm…different rehersal. My MIL also did not know what a rehersal was and really didn’t think it was necessary for a rehersal, luckily though since she had a lot of family flying in from overseas she was all about the dinner part. We decided to invite all the out of town people who were going to be around the night before to the dinner since it was a backyard bbq. She was excited about the dinner, but still thought the rehersal itself is weird but is going with it and says she’ll take care of the invites for the dinner. Unfortunately I did not see the invites and she invited EVERYONE, all 75 people, to the church for the rehersal, not just invite but strongly mentioned promptness at the church on the invite.
For all the American people I got calls like what is this? I’m like don’t worry about it just come afterwards but for my hubs side of the family, they were incredibly curious about what this weird rehersal thing was and they allllllllllllllllll wanted to go – I’m like jeesh I’m having two weddings in the church I guess. It ended up being fun, showed up with our posey of like 40 people to the church, the priest got a kick out of it and said we were lucky to have such support in our lives – guess that’s one way to look at it.