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Does this GM know how much it costs to rent a tux now? When I checked things out at Men's Wearhouse, it was going to be about $175 for us to rent a tux that we liked. I think it's so much better to pay $50 or $60 more and own a good suit. Maybe he just doesn't realize how much tux rentals are. Maybe you could help out with the difference in price?
You are not being bridezilla at all. Just make sure you are willing to comprmise to make sure each GM gets a suit that looks good on them. Maybe you can pick the color and type of fabric but they can choose between 2 or 3 button, etc.?
Oh yes, I forgot to mention...when we priced out tux's, they are at least around $180...and then they wouldn't even be wearing parts of it, since I'd be picking out the tie and shirt regardless. So, I was thinking $233 wasn't all that much more to pay for something that you get to keep after the day is over. :)
We like the options at this particular store because I can choose the material, and they can choose if they like 2 or 3 button, tailored or regular cut...there are a lot of options to select from.
Sorry! I need some caffeine! I missed the part about him owning a tux already!
I really don't think you are being bridezilla. He should not have assumed that he would be able to wear the tux but I can understand (he's a guy so, wedding = tux mentality). If he can't afford the suit and you can't afford to help him with it, could you talk to him about just attending the wedding as a guest? It seems strange that they were willing to buy a tux thinikng he would wear it again but they can't imagine him needing a basic suit, but that's not anyone else's decision but theirs, I guess.
Can you find a place where some guys can rent and some guys can buy if they want too?
That is the route we are going - many tux rental places now rent suits!
i don't know, for me that's a lot of money to spend on something that i'm not going to use. and $50-$60 does seem like a lot more money to spend on a suit rather than a tux rental, considering he doesn't need a suit other than for your wedding. i agree with future mrs. martin, maybe try to find a place where they can rent.
I think its understandable that he might think its high for a suit that he has no other use for. Its like a $233 bridesmaid dress you know you will never wear again. However, if he made the commitment to be in the wedding I think he should suck it up, and not have assumed there would be no cost for attire.
Thanks everyone, so far, for the thoughts on this! We all seem to have similar debates...it stinks!
eeniebeans - I think that is a totally valid point, and that is what I've been explaining to my FI the entire time...I can't get over it in my head when I know my bridesmaids already paid $150 for their dress, and still have to get shoes (I'm most likely gifting them jewelry). I guess that I'm just getting a little bride-zilla-ish because I'm like, "come on...my girls didn't even bat an eye when I selected their dresses...AND they are all from out of state and have to travel/pay lodging/etc...whereas this guy is local and this is literally the only thing he has to contribute monetarily." Oh gosh, I'm a jerk...I know I know.
I guess also...I personally can't put myself in their shoes, so it makes it hard. If it were me, I would much rather spend $50 more on something that I could keep and potentially wear again at some point, rather than spend it on something that I have to return the next day. Surely there is a place where you could at least wear the pants again?
I totally agree with you. Yeah, it'd suck to pay money for something you may not wear again, but you know what? That's what you agree to when you're in a wedding. You can't assume anything except that it's going to cost you some money.
Is there any way you could find a similar suit for rental? If the suits have options anyways, a similar suit might not stand out that much.
Wait, will the buy 1 get 2 free sale even work for three seperate peeps? Just making sure....
It's hard to say, but I do think it's a bit unreasonable to insist without getting further information or allowing the guy to bow out gracefully.
True, people do sign on for certain sacrifices when they agree to participate in a wedding but, say, not making rent one month or eating ramen for three weeks usually isn't one of them.
If possible - and it's that important to you - I'd offer to pay for part of his suit.
I completely understand the having no money thing (I don't have any either), but I also don't see why he should be treated any differently than a BM who has to buy her dress that she'll never wear again. Maybe you all could just pay the difference between what it would cost to rent a tux vs. buying the suit.
I mean he could even sell it after I'm sure - whereas a BM trying to sell a BM dress, maybe, but doubtful.
And if he doesn't sell it, even though he says he'll never wear it, having a suit hanging in your closet "just in case" doesn't seem to be a horrible idea.
I'm happy to say that everything has been resolved, thanks to Black Friday :)
I was able to find a similar suit to the Jos. A. Banks one at Kohl's...and on Black Friday they went on sale for about 65% off or so! The pants were $35, and the jacket $99...we got the groomsman and his wife to meet us at the store so they could actually see the suit, and his wife absolutely loved it (he did too). Whew...sigh of relief. So, for $134, the suit problem is taken care of! It ends up being less expensive than the suit/tux rental...yahoo!
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So, here is the situation:
For our wedding, the FI and I have decided that we want the guys in suits, rather than tuxedos. With the decor/feel of the venue and such, a tux will be too fancy.
So...the FI and I have searched high and low for suit options that won't blow the budget. We came across Jos. A. Banks, which has a great looking tailored suit that is perfect. They told us that they hold buy 1, get 2 free sales...so we could wait for the sale to come around and purchase everyone's suits that way...taking the price of the suit down to $233 a piece. I am under the impression that this is a pretty darn good price (the regular price of this suit is around $700). We plan on purchasing shirts and ties for the guys and giving them as a gift...so they would only have to purchase the suit.
2 of the 4 groomsmen wear suits on a daily basis for work, so they are on board for this...they will definitely wear it again. However, one of the other groomsmen doesn't usually have any occasion for wearing a suit. He just called my FI and expressed his concern: we think he was assuming that he'd be able to wear his tuxedo that he bought for his wedding last year (which would have been fine if we decided to go the tux route). We understand that he and his wife aren't making a ton of money at the given time (I feel for them...we aren't exactly rolling in the dough either...), but I am not willing to compromise the overall attire for the groomsmen because of one person. I thought we had found a reasonable priced suit for the guys...
Yuck...do I sound like a bridezilla? Has anyone out there experienced this too? How did you deal with it?