guest accomodations vent/advice?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would just tell them… It should be an honor to them that it means so much to you to have them with you. I doubt they would take any kind of offense. If they say they would rather give you the money, tell them you don’t want your wedding to be about getting gifts; you want to share the experience with your family. How could anyone be upset with that? I think that is all you can do. If they still choose to stay at the other hotel, that’s their choice… but I would definitely try to express your feelings a bit more.

Post # 4
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3303 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

How many rooms does the Inn have?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am so sorry that it turned out that way! I would try and nicely tell them that you wanted all this time together. It sucks when plans slip through your fingers and I hope this can turn around! Just be honest with everyone and you may just be surprised on how helpful they could be! 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

and now we are not only responsible for a couple rooms that haven’t been booked,


If there are only a couple of rooms that have not been booked, it doesn’t soud liek there was much room left at the Inn. We simply cannot control where our guests are going to stay. Some of them may have wanted a quiet escape from the activities of the wedding weekend, thus choosing to book elsewhere.

If the couple that booked elsewhere wants to stay at the inn,you could pay the $20 cancellation fee for them. It would be a lot less than paying for their empty room.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

I have to be honest here, if I could save 300 bucks by staying with friends I am all over that.  That is a ton of money to save and has nothing to do with how much I care about being at your wedding and spending time with you.

Unfortunately, you are in the middle of this from making assumptions.  You assumed all these people would want to stay with you and now you have a large bill to take care of.  I don’t mean to be cruel or snarky at all, but that is this whole thing happened.

There is a part of my close family I would LOVE to spend time with at a B&B, and there is a part of my close family that I would HATE to spend time with at a B&B, and it would never happen.  It would be a weekend of Hell.  Any family politics going on here like that?

Also, I have to say that I would be hesitant to stay at the B&B because I would feel like I was intruding on the couple’s privacy and time together.

These are just some other viewpoints that might help you understand why people are staying elsewhere.

As far as saving 300.00 by staying with friends, you can’t blame them for that one.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

$300 dollars is a lot. If people are already travelling for your wedding, it is a lot to expect them to pay for that room when they don’t have to. Also, they can’t read your mind, so how were they to know you expected them to? If your destination is a touristy place, maybe some couples don’t want to be obligated to be with family the entire time and would rather do their own thing?

However, I do agree with PP that for the couple that payed more for their hotel that maybe you could offer to pay the $20 cancellation fee in order for them to change. would help you both in the scheme of things.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

to be honest, if i was coming alone – yeha id want to save money by staying with friends

if i were coming with my husband – i might want to have a bit of romantic alone time with him

your wedding is one night, you don’t get to control where people stay for it. your wedding is about you. the days/time preceding or following the wedding – not so much

its a pity you didnt check that people wanted to stay there before you booked it but it is what it is. youll have an awesome time regardless

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@bearinger:  Maybe they are trying to be discreet and just don’t want to come  staright out with the fact that they don’t want to stay at the Inn. If family dynamics are involved, and you know about that, it should be understandable that they choose to stay elsewhere.

Honestly, I think you are being over controlling expecting to dictate where your guests stay.

Room blocks are supposed to be a suggestion, not an order.

I have been to many weddings and never had a bride question my choice of accommodation.

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@bearinger:  I understand why you’re frustrated!  We chose to do a similar setup (but we’re having events all weekend) since everyone is out of town, and being able to stay in the same place was important to both sets of parents.  I will definitely be sad if a lot of people opt to seek other accomodations, but I realize that it’s their choice.  Still, would be disappointing.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was just asking because we just had the same exact wedding setup…out of state destination weekend Inn wedding lol.  We actually booked all the rooms for our guests. 

Maybe if you end up booking the extra rooms you can haggle so to speak with other family and friends to see if they’d like to stay at the inn for a discounted rate…and they can just pay you in cash? 

TBH I don’t think most of our guests would have been able to stay if we hadn’t paid but it really was a great experience having everyone together.  It was so much work and sometimes it felt like we were doing so much for our guests and taking on all the stress that we weren’t getting to be bride and groom throughout the entire process…so keep that in mind.  If it ends up costing you your sanity just choose to be happy and spoil yourselves with the money you save…okay back to the point.  At the inn we were in bed each night by like 9pm and up at 5am working on wedding…our guests stayed up all night having fun….and slept in late…it really was awesome lol.

🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I guess on the bright side – only three rooms aren’t booked right now! It could be worse, you could be stuck with covering the cost of 15 rooms.

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