Post # 1
long story short – I was going to just let guest sit wherever because that’s just easier and I’ve been to a wedding where it was like that and it was not chaotic or crazy, it was nice. But now I think I want to switch to a seating chart just to put some of our out of town guests with people they know/would get along with…but…what do I do about guests that weren’t invited but show up anyways?
I invited a guest, who assumed she had a +1. She ended up asking 2 people. She then said another guest at the wedding assumed at +1 and asked someone.
Is it normal for people to assume a +1? If she had asked earlier (before the RSVP date) then it would have been possible. She didn’t even RSVP herself, I had to do it because she was a week past the deadline. Anyways, I told her she couldn’t bring anyone but knowing her, she still might do it anyways.
If I do a seating chart, I have about 10 extra heads just in case the people I invited to the wedding, but didn’t RSVP, end up coming. Should I just spread out blank seats throughout the a few tables?
Or should I go back to my original plan and just have no seating chart?
why is this such a headache.
Post # 3
Most couples have to phone or email those who didn’t RSVP as the caterers will need the numbers.
I would do assigned seating with a seating chart for those who RSVP’d or those you phoned to verify if they were coming or not. I would leave one table blank and those who show up anyhow or bring uninvited guests can sit there.
If they don’t see their name on the seating chart, I am sure they can figure out where the empty seats are located.
Post # 4
Maybe you could call a few of the people that assumed +1 and explain they assumed incorectly? Did they send in their RSVPs?
I didn’t do a seating chart, because I was loosing my mind over it. Too much worrying about a few family drama’s that I didn’t want to have to deal with. DH said they will be adults and let the chart go… no one sits where they are supposed to, and people pull up empty chairs to a table anyway.
He was right….. we had about 80 people, and by the end of the night my “side” had two huge tables and his had three (parents are divorced). Maybe you should reconsider the chart at all.
Post # 5
Talk to these two offenders now. Find out if they are bringing guests, what the names are etc. Then, make your seating plan, make your escort cards. If uninvited guests/+1’s show up, they will not have a seat. They or the coattails they dragged in on, will have to ask an EMPLOYEE to have a place set for them. My organizer assured me that if someone extra came, they would accomodate them.