Guest at Indian wedding, what do I wear?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

is it a specific religion? if so, that might dictate something.

Post # 5
Member
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would wear something bright and colorful and maybe beaded or with other decoration if you have anything like that. I’m marrying into an Indian family and was taken to a wedding this summer to see what it was like. My FMIL gave me a sari to wear to the ceremony and a lehenga to wear to the reception. I was the only non-Indian in Indian attire, and got lots of lovely compliments mostly from older Indian ladies 🙂

Since it’s such short notice, I would just wear the most colorful thing you own rather than trying to find something new.

This is the lehenga I wore: http://images.cbazaar.com/images/Attractive-Lehenga-Choli-GHKY1039-u.jpg

I bought these shoes to go with both the lehenga and the sari (which was navy blue): http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/alfani-womens-shoes-genesis-wedge-sandals?ID=670096

Gold and blingy is good 🙂

Post # 7
Member
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Lepidoptera:  Either would be good, but I would pair them with some blingy jewelry if you have it, bracelets, big earrings, big necklace. Also, not an issue dressing like the bride, people were in all colors at the wedding I was at. And while it’s true that it’s usually red, the state that my fiance’s family is from (and the bride of the wedding I went to) wears yellow for the bride. But she was dressed differently for the reception anyway, bright pink I think, so who knows what the bride will be wearing at the reception you’re at.

Post # 9
Member
7406 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@Lepidoptera:  Wear what you would normally wear to a wedding (leaning towards the conservative side since you do not know what religion they follow). It is pretty insulting to their culture to use their wedding as an excuse to play out your bollywood wedding fantasy.

Also what you see in the movies is not exactly real life.

Also it is pretty rude to skip the ceremony (the important and meaningful part of the whole wedding experience) especially over something like having to wear a scarf.

 

Post # 11
Member
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m so jealous! The best wedding I ever went to was an indian one. Amazing food, music, dancing. I wish I could go to it again!  I didn’t wear a sari and none of the non-Indian guests did either. I did be sure to wear a bright colored dress though – I wore a bright blue cocktail dress with blingy jewelry and it was perfect. One of my good friends is indian and I’m dying for her to get married because I fully intend on wearing a sari to her wedding.  Have fun!  

 

Post # 12
Member
7406 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@Lepidoptera:  I don’t think I am taking your post out of context. Not once did you mention anything about the cultural aspect aside from getting to play dress up and comparing it to a bollywood movie. You don’t even know what religion your “friend” follow which can make a big difference in the wedding traditions. If you are actually a friend and interested in the culture why wouldn;t you attend the ceremony. I am sure that your friend was trying to be polite by saying that it was ok to miss it.

 

Post # 13
Member
2828 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I generally wear a solid colored cocktail dress with a colorful shawl, gold shoes and every piece of gold jewelry I can get my hands on (including my tikka). I never go wrong and all the Indian ladies always compliment my look. I’m not Indian, but grew up with lots of Indian influence and am very comfortable in Hindu social settings.

 

Post # 14
Member
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@j_jaye:  aw come on, that was a little rude

Post # 15
Member
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Lepidoptera:  I’ve always wanted to go to an Indian wedding. My college roomate was punjabi and I have been itching for her to get married! haha! 

I say seize the opportunity to wear a sari or khurta pajama or somethign similar. Nothing too complicated or you wont be comfortable or able to keep it on. 

Post # 16
Member
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

At the wedding I went to there were a lot more people at the reception than at the wedding. I believe it was because not everyone was invited to the ceremony. I think maybe the groom’s side was split into two groups, the people invited to the ceremony and lunch, and the people invited to the dinner reception

Leave a comment


Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

Find Amazing Vendors