Post # 1
I am getting married July 7th of next year. Yep, that’s on a monday. We live in colorado but have most our family family and friends in California, Florida, Mass, Conneticut, Texas, and Missouri. We are trying to gauge how many guests to expect since we are inviting around 200 people. Most of the family is extended that we do not keep in touch with, to please our parents though our parents do not stay in contact either. Also many of the family friends are people we have not seen in years. We are hoping to keep our guest list around 100 but don’t know if expecting 50% of guest to decline is realistic or not. We do understand that with the wedding being on a Monday family and friends will have to take off work but with the 4th being on a Friday, we could see guests taking a long weekend, but many will also have to travel and rent cars and hotels. Please tell me your story and experience for your wedding when it came to guest RSVP’s, as I am very nervous at this point.
Post # 3
I would err on the side of caution and only invite the number of guests both your budget and your venue can comfortable accommodate.
If it’s a matter of extended family feeling left out, you can always send marriage announcements after the fact.
Post # 4
I imagine you will have a lot of declines – however, I don’t think you should be operating under the assumption that only 100 guests will show. Still plan for 200 within your budget and venue. Perhaps choose a venue with options – maybe you could go into another room if you do have a large decline rate?
Post # 5
I’m assuming you will have a lot of declines. We had almost a 30% decline rate with an original guest list of 300 due to distant relationships (in terms of emotions) with family. I also think since it’s a “destination wedding” for most guests and on a Monday that this will result in even more declines. However, I would also err on the side of caution and plan/budget for everyone to say yes. I would hate to have the stress of not having enough room or money to host my invited guests.
Post # 6
@smarie13: Having a Monday wedding could deter people from going to your wedding, so you might get the 100 guest count that you’re wanting… but then again, it’s July 4th holiday weekend, isn’t it?
We are getting married this coming May and sent out 65 RSVP cards about 2 or 3 weeks ago. We needed a good head count bc the rooftop venue we’re about to book has max capacity of 100… and of the 65 RSVPs we sent out, we have an estimate of 96 guests. Granted responses can change from now until May, but so far that is our count. Also, our guests were able to RSVP online, so that saved some $ and anxiety on our part if we were waiting on response cards to get sent back to us.
Also, we are paying for our wedding, so that saved alot of guests that my parents would’ve “made” me invite had the wedding been local.