- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
The girlfriend of one of FI’s two groomsmen is planning on coming to our wedding in Italy (which you may have previously read, neither of us is happy about- she hates us). Well, she sent FI a picture message yesterday of a dress, asking if it was appropriate to wear to the wedding. I’m glad she asked, but I wasn’t really sure how to convey my feelings about it. Here is the dress she sent:
this is a picture from the DEB website, where it is described as “all over glitter sequin tight club dress”. When she sent the picture, it was on a mannequin in the store, and it looked orange (if you’ve ever been in DEB, you know they have terrible lighting). My only request to our photographer and officiant, when they ask what to wear was to not wear construction orange, which is what it looked like in the photo she sent. I figured everyone else would know better. So I may have overreacted a bit, and asked FI to text back that I would prefer nobody wear bright orange or lime green (because of what she wore to her BF’s brother’s wedding- more on that in a minute). She replied saying that she wouldn’t wear those colors anyway.
I felt like a total bitch the minute he sent the message, and FI agreed with me that I was being sort of a bitch about this. But regardless of color, the dress is inappropriate for our formal wedding. One, it is coeverd in glitter- if you look at the up close pics on the website, you cvan see that. Two, it’s awfully short. It seems too clubby to be formalwear, and well, we are getting married outside in April, so she would freeze her butt off anyway.
This is what she wore to her BF’s brother’s equally formal wedding:
Sorry it’s grainy. But my point is, she has a track record of dressing inappropriately for formal events, and, excuse me, but, on the trashy side.
If we were having a big wedding, I would just let it go and let her get side-eye from everyone. But we are having 30 people MAXIMUM at our wedding, so it is very intimate, and I am worried that she will be out of place and visually distracting.
I’m not saying she needs to go blow a hundred bucks on a fancy new dress, but for pete’s sake, can’t she dress in something a little more classy and subtle?
I think I am going to have to ask if my photographer can try to keep her out of shots (one, because we don’t want her there in the first place, and two, I don’t want to cringe every time I look at pictures) if she does in fact make it to the wedding (she and her BF are flying standby- but that’s a whole other rant).
Thanks for letting me vent, girls!
I’m not going to approach her about wedding attire, but if the wedding comes up next time we see them, I intend to emphasize 1) how formal the wedding is (I’ll probably exaggerate a bit to try to get her to change her dress) and 2) how it will be chilly in the evening, so she will probably want a longer dress and maybe a cardigan to keep warm