Post # 1
HI there – I have been doing SO much planning that I am thinking about scratching certain things. I know we are allowed to do whatever WE want, but would love some opinions on skipping these items vs. having them as a ‘nice’ touch. I want as many nice touches without losing my sanity.
Guest book – does anyone ever read this after? I’ve been to weddings where I purposely skip signing it for fear of not knowing the right thing to write…
Programs – we are having a short outdoor ceremony and only have 2 bm and 2 gm. No readings, or prayers etc are involved. 15 min max. Do I need progams for this?
Card box – I have been back and forth about getting a birdcage to use as a cardbox at the reception. It would really fit with my theme, but do these appear tacky? And, is it worth the $40?
Thanks for your advice!
Post # 3
I’m skipping the programs as well – unless FI feels inspired to make them on his own.
Card box – I’m having a friend make it but I don’t think its necessary – as long as you have a plan for where to put all the cards/who to give them to. You certainly can’t carry them around.
Guest book – I was going to skip it but FI wanted it so we’re doing a photo printer – less work than I thought, just ordered printer, paper/catridge, album, sticky things – but pricy.
Post # 4
Personally, I think you could skip it all. I really appreciate programs regardless of ceremony length – It makes me feel more connected to what’s going (as a guest). I’d say, if you were to squeak out anything – I’d go with programs.
Can you do an alternative to a guest book? Like a wishing tree or wish bowl or something? Where those who want to write you notes could?
Post # 5
We’re skipping guestbook and programs. Menus too.
My poor mother thinks the world is going to end, but I’m not sure anyone will notice…
Post # 6
Guestbook – This is only for the couple for after so I dont think it matters if you skip it
Cardbox – never even heard of when until weddingbee – we are not doing one at all!
Programs – are the biggest pain in my a** so dont do them because they are hard unless you have the money to order them! They just get thrown out anyways!!
Post # 7
We’re skipping the programs too, it will be a very quick ceremony and a small bridal party like yours.
As far as a guestbook you could just get a nice notebook and set it out on teh table, it doesn’t need to be a really involved project, but if you don’t think you’d ever look at it again I wouldnt worry about not having it.
I’d say the only thing you actually need is a place to put the cards. If not people will be asking your relatives all night wehre to put them, and then theres the matter of one falling off the table and getting lost or ruined. Bird cages are very “in” right now. My caterer has 2 for us to choose from so thats the route were going, but I wouldn’t spend $40 on it unless you plan to use it later for home decor or something. A nice box opened up or with a hole cut in the top will do just fine and they sell lots of them for under $15. Keep an eye open for teh clearance section in home stores and you might find something you like with minimal effort and price.
Post # 8
If you don’t want them, then I would just skip them. None of the above are essentials. Your guests might like some sort of guestbook to sign though. You could always do little notecards for more personal messages if you don’t want to just read through a book of signatures.
Post # 9
I personally think guestbooks are a waste of time. I’m going to have “Advice, wishes, predictions” cards (one of the Bees did this), so that I get different things to read. I’m only doing a single box for those cards and for actual wedding cards as well (or I’m going to do some topiaries with some clothesline for them to be clipped to).
We’re not doing programs (unless I end up with a ton of time on my hands) because our ceremony is short. I’d rather just thank people at the reception.
Post # 10
I bought a guestbook for $2.50 at Big Lots. I think it’s nice to be able to remember exactly who was there, but it’s not necessary, of course. I just assumed most people will just write their names, but it’d be nice if they wrote more.
My mom got me a card box last week at Michael’s craft store for $5 on sale. It’s a beautiful box that I’m using as a card box, so after the wedding is resusable.
I doubt I’ll do programs, because I won’t know a few things til the week of the wedding and I just won’t have time.
Post # 11
Guest Book – skip it
Programs – we are having a short 15 min ceremony with only 2 bm/gm too. But are still DIY-ing a simple fan program, since we will be outside.
Card Box – We are doing something different for a Card Box only because we expect most of our guests will just give a card w/cash rather than a traditional gift. I think the birdcage is cute, but just did not fit our theme. I say go for it! And then you can reuse it in your home or even resell it afterwards.
Post # 12
Programs are definitely not neccessary. And I agree with PP, after having completed my fan programs, they’re a pain in the ass. For a few reasons… My BFF who isn’t in my wedding party (as I decided to keep it small and only have my sisters), has twin boy/girl who are 2. Last minute, after printing the programs, I thought they would be adorable to be FG/RB – then realized I already had the stupid programs printed. Oh well. (Same goes for us wanting to nix the memorial candle lighting/poem reading and just having it at the reception – can’t, it’s in the program!).
Card Box – This can be done for free/cheap, if you’re willing to be crafty or thrifty. My cardbox is an old rural mailbox I got for free from craigslist. Used ribbons from registry gifts already received (I lvoe that BB&B uses my wedding colors to wrap their gifts!) and $1 roll of contact paper from Dollar Tree to cover it. We could have used fabric or an old sheet or decopaged it with tissue paper… it’s endless. Anyway, you can do that with just about any cardboard box, too! Or, here is a link to cheaper birdcages than $40. http://www.save-on-crafts.com/birds.html
Guest Book – Although not neccessary… you can make it more interesting for yourself, if you are teetering one way or the other. We’re having 3. Overkill, I know. But each one is something different. We’re having a woodslice – just for signatures. A thunbprint tree, for thumbprints! (So, fun, but not just signing something – an activity, if you will). The third we have pre-printed cards, with prompts on one side and blank space on the other. We’re putting them on the dinner tables with colored pencils so guests have lots of time to either think of something clever to say or draw us a picture! None of these were expensive, on their own. Total cost for all 3 is about $50 (that’s with frames pens, custom-printed cards, etc).
I guess what I’m trying to get at, is these things can be fun – they don’t have to be typical, if you don’t want them to be. Of course, you’re right, none of them are requirements, by any means.
Post # 13
We’re doing a guest tree-poster. Guestbooks seem like a waste. We’re doing programs so people know what’s going on with the Jewish traditions. Otherwise I think you can skip it, though it’s nice to know who is standing with the bride and groom. No card box here either.
Post # 14
I would just add one thing, if you decide to do the birdcage card holder – it is really easy to resell it on craigslist or something because they are sooo popular right now.
Post # 15
I skipped programs. I don’t think anybody missed them.
Post # 16
I think for your situation skipping the programs would be fine, we only had them because we had a Catholic ceremony with various prayers and things. The guest book I was so glad I bought one from Hallmark I found for only $12 instead of spending much more on one I had found online – barely anyone actually signed it. As for the card box I would go for it just because I do think it would add a nice touch plus it is a clear, confusion-free way of the guests knowing where to place your cards.