(Closed) guest bringing uninvited guest

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should be invite this unvited guest?
    let FI tell her that his boyfriend can't come : (49 votes)
    78 %
    let it slide. +1 isn't too bad : (13 votes)
    21 %
    i have another idea/suggestion (please elaborate, thanks) : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    1897 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Wow, that makes me cringe with disgust.  What are people thinking?!  How insanely rude.  I fear the same thing for my wedding and I just hope I don’t have to deal with that.  I’m sorry.  That’s crappy.

    Post # 4
    1982 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I hate hate HATE hearing people do this! I know it’s a common thing that people are so rude about this, but I want to just send all these rude people to etiquette classes.

    Post # 5
    1585 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Yeah… that is just plain RUDE!!!

    You should have your Fiance call her and let her know that becuse of “fire marshall” Codes she cannot have a +1.  That you are already at capacity for your event.

    Would you let her bring someone if you had another person decline the invitation and you had more room?

    Post # 6
    2226 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I’ve had 4 people who have invited someone even though their invitation didn’t say “and guest”.  I’m just hoping that we’ll have enough seats!!!  Some people have no clue!  The worst part?  It’s a destination wedding!

    Post # 7
    4001 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    This is my fear!  That’s so classless to me, why does this always happen?  I won’t be able to handle it tactfully at all so I’m hoping I’ll be able to avoid it.  I think we’ll have more issues with my FI’s family so it’ll be him having the awkward convo’s.  The thing is, if you don’t want to offend her or risk her not attending at all, you kinda just have to go with it.  If there’s not love lost, then shoot- tell her that that’s extra money you shouldn’t have to pay!  I just know that I wouldn’t be able to actually initiate that converstation. 

    Post # 8
    1207 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    Good thing your Fiance is taking care of it!  I would hate to have to call someone and be like…. “Ummm, you can’t invite someone to my wedding.”  Haha, so awkward.  And it is INCREDIBLY rude when people invite someone else! 

    Post # 9
    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Well at least your Fiance is going to handle it. I know if – that is, WHEN – this happens to us, I’m going to have to deal with all the uninvited extras. That’s what I get for being assertive, I suppose.

    Post # 11
    408 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    lol….not laughing at you, just the crazy people. We also put “we have reserved— seat(s) in your honor”…I’m just waiting to see who blatantly ignores that!

    Post # 12
    125 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    people are such dopes.  Luckily you have a good Fi ^_^  It’s too bad you have to keep putting your foot down…but its your wedding and I don’t understand why people don’t get that?

    Post # 13
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    We’ve had one so far add might be bringing their kid (who is an adult doesn’t live at home).  Very odd to me because I only put Mr & Mrs. John Doe. I didn’t have and family nor did I send the adult child an invite to his home.  And the fact that they wrote might bring him.  Really?

    Our wedding is destination so you would pretty much know if they were coming or not by now.  Oh well, I’m just not going to lose sleep over it.  Thankfully we think things will even out.

    Post # 14
    25 posts
    • Wedding: February 2010

    Argh, I just went through this same thing.  FI’s friend told us 1.5 weeks before our weddng (exactly 3 days AFTER all the contracts were signed, finalized, and payments made) that he’d like to bring his gf if that’s ok.  And his reason for asking so late?  He knew we didn’t want to include extra guests so he felt bad for asking, but he decided he couldn’t hold it any more after keeping silent for 2 months.

    I flipped out and told Fiance that if he wants to include his friend’s gf, he needs to find a way to pay the fees for changing the contract less than 2 weeks prior to the event, and he has to handmake her escort card because I am going to fume otherwise.  Fortunately, our super awesome wedding coordinator and caterer said it would be fine, didn’t charge us anything, and Fiance made a crookedly cut escort card for this girl.

    Post # 15
    554 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Oh gosh, good luck.  I have 8ish months before I have to deal with this… and I’m sure that it will be something that will happen to me… seems like guests are the same everywhere. :/

    Post # 16
    1638 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Wow that is SO rude. Thankfully your Fiance is going to take care of it since it’s his friend.

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