Guest broke up with boyfriend, so now she is bringing sis as her plus one?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you’ve already budgeted for her plus one, what’s the big deal? We had a small affair as well, but personally, I wouldn’t want to attend a wedding alone, no matter the size. Especially if my father had just passed.

Post # 4
1690 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think you’re wrong, no.

However, I don’t think she’s wrong either. She probably has very little idea about wedding etiquette, etc.. All she probably knows is she had two seats, and since she isn’t with her boyfriend anymore, she’ll just bring here sister. Honestly I’d just let it go in this scenario. It sounds like she’s having a rough go (father passing, breaking up with BF) maybe she just wants her sister by her side to feel more comfortable. Is it really that big of a deal?

Post # 7
1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I actually don’t think its rude at all in this situation. I’m sure she only asked because you had already told her she could have her boyfriend at the time. She might be feeling lonely and attending a wedding alone might make her feel worse. Let her bring her sister and she will be happier and bring more fun to your wedding that way. Plus, since you already budgeted for the extra person – you might as well.

Post # 8
6449 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@HappinessIsInDaisies:  +1

Did you know her boyfriend well? I’m guessing that since you forgot about him you didn’t know him any better than you know her sister.

Glad you’re letting it go 🙂

Post # 9
2173 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I definitely think you’re doing the right thing by letting her bring her sister.

Post # 10
1861 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yeah, the whole “invitations are non-transferrable” thing is correct etiquette, but my goodness, it sounds like she’s having a hard time of it. You’re doing the gracious, kind, and empathetic thing by not making an issue of it.


Post # 11
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@skschick:  Agree with the above posters.

I have a few of these, but not even that sympathetic.  I have a few “my husband can’t make it, so I’m bringing so-and-so” and they don’t really have a good reason.  Eh, whatevs.  Budgeted for it anyway, and I don’t love going to weddings by myself so I understand.

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