Post # 1
I was told tonight that I have to make sure that only 220 people come to my wedding. I have to send one invitation to my parents church since my dad is the pastor. I don’t know how I can say that we can only have 40 people come from their church. I don’t want it to come across as if we are being hateful. I just have to watch the money. I have also had friends ask me within the last few weeks if they could come even though they weren’t going to be invited to start with. I don’t know how to say NO to people. I don’t want to come across as a bad person. How can I word it so that they people from church that I want to come are there? Please help me. I am so stressed out.
Post # 3
What we did was just tell them that we had limited space, and were only inviting close friends and family. We told them that we wish we could invite everyone we wanted to but the venue space just won’t allow it.
Post # 4
Can’t you just give invitations to the ones that you want to be there? And just make an annoucement that you will be getting married in the church program.
Post # 5
just be honest with your friends, say “you know that was the hardest part about wedding plans was limiting our guest list to fit our venue(they will assume it was small), we wish we could invite everyone, but it just wasnt feesable, we hope to get together with you soon after the wedding. (or hope to see you at [insert next big function here]), i hope you understand”
as for the church, its not uncommon for a general invitation to be for the congregation for the ceremony only, this allows people to witness you get married in their church, but doesnt extend the invitation to the reception. if the size of the church is your concern, tell your dad not to extend the invite to more than x people.
Post # 6
We are not getting married in my dad’s church. We are getting married in another church. The only problem is that my FMIL went over her given number so I had to cut my list to accomidate her