- 3 years ago
- Wedding: February 2015
I’m getting married in febuary – so not long at all.
We have most things sorted..the guest list is one of the most stressful parts.
My OH has this friend who lives in another country, but they have known each other from childhood and used to visit each other a lot. I find her a little too close for comfort to be honest with you, she seems to be on his facebook constantly and constalty bugging him about when he is going to visit again..which seems strange considering they are grown adults now..both 27 so i’m confused to why she doesnt have other things going on in her life..lets just say I am slightly weary of her intentions with her constant ‘ miss you’ and ‘please visit soon’. I’ve never really undestood her and was weary of her so when it came to her and the wedidng guest list it would course some disagreement between me and my OH..
Anyway I thought i would be ‘mature’ about it all, I added her on facebook., in whcih I found her liking basically EVERYTHING that I post and even tagging me in things and trying to be nice all the time….like she was trying to get round me or trying so hard for me to like her, which again – I found odd because peronally getting up my a** isnt going to make me warm to you in my opinion.
Anyway, I wake up yesterday to a VERY long essay from her basically begging me to let her come to the wedding. ( I never said she couldnt come, but we didnt invite her due to the distance and the awkwardness that I feel)
she kept mentioning about how her and my OH have never had a romantic intrest ( not sure why she brought that up?) and how it is all legit but she undestands how I would think the whole thing was a little strange.
To be fair the message was polite and kind, So I couldnt just say ‘NO’. so I said, yeah she could come..but she started acting like this would be a huge suprise for my OH and how he might ‘ cry’ cos he would be so emotional about seeing her again…and its suppose to be my wedding day? Not a reunion day?
She kept talking about how she didnt want to take away limelight from my big day ( so she thought she would be) , even though i said yes, was mature and polite I didnt like where the convo was going, it seemd that she knew it would make a big fuss – her coming all the way from America – to the UK for this wedding and she hasnt seen my other half in 6 years… it kinda makes the day about her and not about the wedding ( thats how it felt to me anyway)
At first I thought yeah her coming would be a nice supirse for him..regarless of my feelings about her or my gut feeling. However I slept on it last night and thought wait a minute why should her coming be a surpirse? I thought it was suppose to be a day about me and him.. not about her? I started looking in to it and just didnt undestand why she wanted to spend hundrerds of pounds on plane tickets to see someone she hasnt seen in 6 years..I mean does that look supicious so anyone else..
or even questioning why she doesnt have friends in her own country or anything else to spend her money on?
So now im left with what to do now…
I said she could come and she was looking at flights but the honest truth is why do I want a girl i’ve never met, ( who my OH’s family seem to adore as well ) coming to my wedding and making me feel awkward.. Do i just be honest with her and say she makes me feel uneasy and i was just trying to be polite or do i just bite the bullet and let her come?
Her message was so long and perswasive that she kinda pushed me in to a corner and it wasnt like I could she say NO YOU CANT COME. so on that, I dont think its fair she just put me on the spot with it all..
fellow brides, how would you feel if some guest was coming from miles away and talks about how she might steal your limelight?!
- This topic was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by Mrstobe26.