(Closed) Guests EXPECT an open bar

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I think most guest expect booze…but personally not a full open bar.  Yes to wine and beer and if there is a signature drink that isn’t something fruity…great.  If there’s more than that, wonderful.  If you have to pay for something that they aren’t offering, but it’s available…wonderful.  If everything is there and it’s free…boo-yah!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i think it depends on your financial situation. personally i prefer to have an open bar, i think it’s a culture thing, but i understand that alcohol is expensive.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

To be completely honest I feel like if you’re going to have alcohol it should be open bar. I feel it’s rude to ask people to come celebrate with you and expect them to pay for alcohol. BUT I know everyone has different views on this subject. I’m just being honest though…

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

I think it depends on the area, tbh. We’re doing a specialty drink or two, and then beer and wine.

 

Though if a guest told me that they expected an open bar, and balked about us not having one, I think they might get… punched in the nose. :p Ok, not that severe, but it would make me snarly.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

It definitely depends on the area.

How rude though. I don’t go to a different type of party and tell the hosts what to serve!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think most expect booze, but not an open bar. I have never expected that and won’t be having one at my wedding.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree that people probably expect there to be alcohol at the wedding, especially at a evening or night wedding, but I don’t think that people expect that you will pay for everything!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I have been to 1 wedding with a full open bar, and about 10 with limited bars.

I am a sales manager at a hotel, and have had ZERO full open bars, mostly limited bars, and a few cash bars.

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

For my fiance’s 30th birthday, he threw a huge party, rented out a party room at a restaurant, and had an open bar. He likes to drink, as do his friends. In our particular situation, the people on our guest list will most definitely expect an open bar, and I’m fine with that. However, I would never, EVER approach another couple and declare that an open bar was an expectation for their wedding. I try to avoid going to any wedding with a lot of expectations, since I think the most awesome things about any wedding are the choices the couple make to make the day represent them and their relationship.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I expect a pony.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

i never expect booze. if someone told me that i’d tell them it isn’t necessarily true. if you really need alcohol at my wedding, you’re free to pick some up yourself. my mister and i don’t really drink and neither do most of our family/guests and the ones that do drink can handle one event without alcohol so i’m not going to spend my precious money on this item. i think it’s presumptious to expect that alcohol be provided. one can hope but to expect? the only thing i expect when i attend a wedding is to watch a beautiful ceremony and have a good time. everything else is extra.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I do not think that anyone should feel obligated to have a full open bar.  I think a wine/beer bar is perfectly acceptable.

I also think that if the financial situation demands it, a cash bar is perfectly acceptable but I would spread the word amongst friends so they come prepared. 

If a guest demanded that from me, I would probably tell my bartender to make them pay for all their drinks…LOL.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We sure as heck aren’t having an open bar, BUT we are going to have coolers full of beer, and champainge. I will probably have bottles of  a drink called Apple pie, that my Aunt makes as well. Other than that they can bring their own if they want it. I mean. Come on. We are having a pretty nice spread and alcohol is spendy!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

@Span- And a clown.

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