Post # 1
OK, My daughter is getting married in Oct in Calif. We live in Texas. For our Texas family and friends it is considered a destination wedding but we also have a lot of family in Calif. Anyways, the location of her wedding is at the top of a windy, mountain road at a winery. I have arranged for a shuttle to pick up out of town guests up at a hotel for which I have set up a block of rooms. The shuttle will take them to the wedding and bring them back to the hotel. I am concerned for texas friends to drive this unfamiliar mt road at night time after drinking. The cost of this shuttle is very expensive. Is it tacky or cheap of me to ask each guest who utilizes the shuttle to pay $10 or $20 per person to help defer the cost. I consider this to be a designated driver situation for them but I don’t want to look cheap. I realize it is already costing some of our guest travel expenses. Please give me some feedback.
Post # 3
@crazyweddingmom: I wouldn’t ask my guests to pay for that. I think it’s a cost you will need to cover
Post # 4
@crazyweddingmom: I would pay it and not say anything, but I would definitely be a tad shocked. I think it’s a little tacky.
Post # 6
Sometimes hotels will arrange a shuttle for you if you book enough rooms through them. Ask them. I definitely wouldn’t ask your guests to pay for this. Are there less expensive options in the area?
Post # 7
@Ice_cream: Thank you for your opinion. It really helps to get outside advice. I have had mixed feelings about it. A good friend of mine suggested it and at the time it sounded like a good idea but in the back of my mind the word tacky kept yelling at me.
Post # 8
@Holly77: Thanks I appreciate your opinion! The last thing I want to do is look cheap or tacky to our friends and family
Post # 9
@engleman10513: Thanks for that advice. I will check into that. So far the places I’ve called are all around the same price which is about $700.00 I know that’s not a ton of money but so far we have already spent over $35,000 so I was just trying to pinch pennies I guess.
Post # 10
Oh yeah that is alot! My mom rented a old city bus. It was really cheap.
Post # 11
Hi crazyweddingmom First & Foremost… I see you are NEW to WBee, so a BIG Welcome to “The Hive”
Etiquette Snob here… lol
(Comes from my job primarily)
From a strictly traditional point of view, when one Host’s a Party… then one is to make the Guests feel most comfortable and not “feel obligated” in any sort of way. Asking them to pay for something that you are essentially choosing to do… is not to make them feel comfy or not obligated.
lol… THOU SHALL NOT CHARGE ADMISSION IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM !!
Here is a thought… I’ve know there is a WEDDING TREND right now, where in lieu of Wedding Favours (those gifts / loot bags / etc) that are given out to Guests, some Brides & Grooms are choosing to pay for the safe transportation of their Guests home or back to the Hotel. Basically providing a Designated Driver in some format, so their Guests can come and have a good time.
If you were to go this route, then you’d have cards printed that would be on the tables that say something like… (you can modify as you choose, but the basic idea is here)
We hope you enjoy yourselves this evening, please know that we LOVE you all very much for coming, you mean the world to us… and so we want to ensure you get home safely, so in lieu of traditional Wedding Favours we are providing transportation to and from the Reception Venue courtesy of ___ (and whatever service you use… Town Trolley – Leo’s Limousine – Ted’s Taxi – or “Safe Home” etc)
IF you feel you want to let your Guests know this info beforehand (ie not using a Drive Your Car Service), you could certainly put it on the Wedding Website, or if you have a more modern Wedding Stationery Suite (not for a Formal Wedding) perhaps on the card with the Hotel Info.
Hope this helps,
Post # 12
I would pay and wouldn’t mention it again.
Post # 13
In addition to the etiquette faux pas it sounds like a logistical nightmare to me, trying to collect money from so many people. I’d skip it.