Guest expenses

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2876 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@crazyweddingmom:  I wouldn’t ask my guests to pay for that. I think it’s a cost you will need to cover

Post # 4
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@crazyweddingmom:   I would pay it and not say anything, but I would definitely be a tad shocked.  I think it’s a little tacky.

Post # 6
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2001

Sometimes hotels will arrange a shuttle for you if you book enough rooms through them. Ask them. I definitely wouldn’t ask your guests to pay for this. Are there less expensive options in the area?

Post # 10
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2001

Oh yeah that is alot! My mom rented a old city bus. It was really cheap.

Post # 11
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi crazyweddingmom  First & Foremost… I see you are NEW to WBee, so a BIG Welcome to “The Hive”


Etiquette Snob here… lol

(Comes from my job primarily)

From a strictly traditional point of view, when one Host’s a Party… then one is to make the Guests feel most comfortable and not “feel obligated” in any sort of way.  Asking them to pay for something that you are essentially choosing to do… is not to make them feel comfy or not obligated.



Here is a thought… I’ve know there is a WEDDING TREND right now, where in lieu of Wedding Favours (those gifts / loot bags / etc) that are given out to Guests, some Brides & Grooms are choosing to pay for the safe transportation of their Guests home or back to the Hotel.  Basically providing a Designated Driver in some format, so their Guests can come and have a good time.

If you were to go this route, then you’d have cards printed that would be on the tables that say something like… (you can modify as you choose, but the basic idea is here)

We hope you enjoy yourselves this evening, please know that we LOVE you all very much for coming, you mean the world to us… and so we want to ensure you get home safely, so in lieu of traditional Wedding Favours we are providing transportation to and from the Reception Venue courtesy of ___ (and whatever service you use… Town Trolley – Leo’s Limousine – Ted’s Taxi – or “Safe Home” etc)

IF you feel you want to let your Guests know this info beforehand (ie not using a Drive Your Car Service), you could certainly put it on the Wedding Website, or if you have a more modern Wedding Stationery Suite (not for a Formal Wedding) perhaps on the card with the Hotel Info.

Hope this helps,


Post # 12
2167 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I would pay and wouldn’t mention it again.

Post # 13
225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

In addition to the etiquette faux pas it sounds like a logistical nightmare to me, trying to collect money from so many people. I’d skip it. 

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