(Closed) Guest in white…yea or nay?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you care if your friend wore white to your wedding?
    Yes : (86 votes)
    54 %
    No : (48 votes)
    30 %
    Not sure... : (24 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1775 posts
    Buzzing bee

    If it wasn’t a widely known rude thing to do I probably wouldn’t care as much. Because it is, however, I would be bothered. I find it disrespectful.

    I certainly noticed the woman in white at the last wedding I attended.

    Post # 4
    Member
    5968 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    @b2b2013:  White is not such a no-no thing anymore…as long as it’s not a blatant analog of a wedding gown, which is probably won’t be, and seeing how your wedding is in summer’s full swing…it’s probably fine, and will in no way detract from anything unless someone decides to make a thing out of it….July is hot and white is the best thing to wear in hot weather….

    Post # 5
    Member
    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I personally don’t care (and it happened at my wedding) but I find it so odd that people can’t manage to find another color to wear. I’d say something to her only because the other guests are probably going to give her the stink eye.

    Post # 6
    Member
    10454 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I would think it was weird but unless it’s a long all white/cream dress, it’s really not a problem. They won’t look like the bride in a short cocktail dress no matter what color it is. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    440 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Well, as long as she doesn’t look bridal… but she’ll have to be prepared for everyone thinking “Rude!!”

    Post # 8
    Member
    110 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    @b2b2013:  It’s not something I would wear, but it wouldn’t be worth getting upset about if someone wore it to my own wedding. However, since it’s your friend and she told you ahead of time, let her know nicely if it really bothers you.

    Post # 9
    Member
    488 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I don’t think I would really care as long as it didn’t look like a bridal gown. It would make me wonder, but other than that I would go about my day!

    Post # 10
    Member
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I personally think it is rude to wear white to someone’s wedding. But, I have to say, if someone wore white to my wedding, it wouldn’t really bother me that much unless it was very bridal looking. My thinking is that she is making herself look like an idiot, not me 🙂

    With that in mind, I would NEVER wear white to someone else’s wedding.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1589 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I personally wouldn’t care, but since it’s such a no/no thing I would feel bad, knowing that others would probably judge. I wouldn’t say anything though. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    1177 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    As long as it’s not a wedding dress, I can’t see why it matters. There were a couple of people in off-white at my first wedding. No one mistook them for the bride.

    There was another poster a few days ago who actually attended a wedding where someoe other than the bride wore a wedding dress. I do think one has to draw a line there.

    Post # 13
    Member
    2971 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i’m not sure. before my wedding, i would have definitely cared. when my brother’s girlfriend was shopping for something to wear to my wedding, she asked me what colors were off limits. i said all shades of white.

    but one of my friends wore a shimmery off-white/ivory dress to my wedding and i didn’t even notice the color until i was looking at pictures a few days later. initially i was like, “she wore white?!” but then i was like, “eh, whatever.” she’s a teen and probably didn’t know there were “rules” and no one thought she was the bride, so no harm done. but i suppose it would depend on the dress (and maybe the person, too, hah).

    what i did notice on the day of and what did bother me, were the girls who showed up dressed like streetwalkers (ok, maybe it wasn’t that bad, but it was definitely not appropriate for a catholic ceremony) and the guests who showed up in jeans, t-shirts, shorts, etc. we requested cocktail attire. like, why are you dressed for barbecue??? 

    Post # 14
    Member
    1797 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I have gotten over it as far as being disrespectful – unless they are wearing a wedding dress.  I am surprised at how many people just don’t realize it is in poor taste, but I don’t get wrapped around the ax handle about.  I would be pretty sure that people would be making remarks about it though and that could get pretty embarrasing.

    Post # 15
    Member
    5243 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @LGenz:  lol! +1 “stink eye” I love that!!!!

    Post # 16
    Hostess
    2556 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    They can wear whatever they’d please.  Except a wedding gown.

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