Post # 1
It’s almost been a week since my wedding and I can’t help feeling really bad about a few things I should have planned better.
The first being the table seating arrangements, one table in particular. I seated guest together that did’nt get along. I seated four guest on the same table as I seated my brother and his wife along with her family. They didn’t talk to four of the guests on their table or even made eye contact with them the whole time. The four guest left early and did’nt enjoy themselfes at all. Afterwards my brother told met that, have I not seated them with those particular guest they would have actually enjoyed our wedding. So basicaaly none of the people on the table enjoyed themselves. Had I not seated them together they might all have enjoyed themselves.
Why do I feel so bad?
Post # 3
@ellergy: We try to be the best hosts we can, but sometimes we didn’t think of everything, or even through no fault of our own, some guests still don’t enjoy themselves. It’s good that you care, it really shows that you care about your guests, rather than having been a “bridezilla” where the only person’s happiness you worried about was your own (sadly, that happens).
Anyway, it’s time to let go of the guilt. You did your best and your guests have probably forgotten any negative feelings already. It was not that big of a deal, nothing terrible happened to them.
Enjoy being a newlywed, guilt-free!
Post # 4
U tried ur best n unfortunately it happens, but remember there’s not much u can do now, and as long as u n ur SO had a great night try not to dwell on it as u can’t undo what’s been done. If you still feel bad apologise to the ppl from that table n just say u wish that u had sat them somewhere else
Post # 5
@joya_aspera: really like what u said totally agree
Post # 6
You’re not a babysitter or a camp counselor! These are grown ass adults, and it’s their own choice whether they’re going to suck it up and make the best of a situation or act like children and “take their ball and go home.” You shouldn’t give this a minute more thought. Anyone with an ounce of maturity would have enjoyed what I’m sure was a lovely dinner, grabbed a drink or two and hit the dance floor for the rest of the night.
You are responsible for making your own fun in this world!
Post # 7
@joya_aspera: +1. Despite our best intentions, sometimes details fall through the cracks. I didn’t list a bartender as a necessity on my venue contract bc I thought opting for the open bar meant the venue would provide one. Nope. We didn’t realize until 30 minutes into the reception there was no bartender. My brother had to tend bar while we posted a quick ad on Craigslist. He spent two hours of my recetpion mixing drinks. These things happen. I would let it go.
Post # 8
If they didn’t have a good time, that’s on them. They’re grown adults in charge of their own feelings. If they can’t put aside their bickering for 1 damn day it’s their problem. Try not to worry about this and enjoy being a newlywed!
Post # 9
This is something that I would focus on! A light could come crashing down and wouldnt bother me, but someone being seated next to people they dont lole would bother me doubly so.
whats done is done. they could have sucked it up and made the best of it…but no, they couldnt. it was just so horrible for them. you cant change it, hun. did you have fun?
because thats really what matters.
Post # 10
If I am at a party or wedding and seated with someone I don’t know, or may not even like, I try to make the best of it. Usually, once a party starts and the meal is finished, people wander around to other tables to talk to those they know or like. It’s called compromise and grown-ups should be able to do that.
Like, PPs have said, I wouldn’t let it bother me. You had enough to deal with, and it was a slight oversight. THEY should get over it and not make you feel bad.
Post # 11
It’s not your fault that people can’t be adults. Don’t sweat it.
Post # 12
Honestly, not making eye contact and not exchanging pleasantries with people you’re seated with is rude. I would be offended that my guests couldn’t have basic manners for a few hours. Yes, you should have tried to seat them elsewhere, but they should also be able to act like adults.
Don’t let it bother you!
Post # 13
it’s over and done with, there’s nothing you can do about it now so let it go and move on. It’s a really small thing to worry about in the grand scheme of things.
Post # 14
They should have been adults and sucked it up for a few hours… Or they should have had their butts on that dance floor so they didn’t have to look at one another.
Post # 15
So not worth the guilt. They need to learn to grow up and get over it. And you need to stop feeling guilty about it. You clearly didn’t do it on purpose. You had 8 million other things to think about. Life happens. They need to deal. And there’s nothing to do about it now so don’t let it bug you or taint your views of the wedding day.
Post # 16
I’m sorry, but that is a really juvenile complaint. People will leaeve when they want, for whatever reason, and that’s ok IMO, but no one should gripe about a party they were GUESTS at. I’d just roll my eyes and move on with my life if I were you.