Post # 1
Ok fellow bees I need your help. I have a couple on my list which i am not sure why i am inviting other than i feel obligated to. So here is where you come in and help me figure out if they really should be on the list or if i am just crazy.
fifteen years ago, the couple was part of a group that worked together to get me to where i am now. I only lived with the couple for a year and that year lets just say i rather forget. Not only was she, being the wife, not very nice she actually acussed me of stealing her wedding ring. Now may i remind you that I was 11 years old and wasnt let out of their sight. Needless to say 3 years later she came up to me at church to let me know that she had found her ring in the cupboard where she had placed it that many years earlier. Yeah, she never appologized. So anyway,we go to the same church and in those 15 years we have been amicable to one another.
Now after reading the above paragraph you wonder why i am even questioning whether they should be invited to me wedding or not, RIGHT? Well i feel obligated to since they are part of the reason I am where i am today. In INDIANA and not in the hood in the small island i still call home.
so please please, help me. SHOULD THEY BE ON MY LIST OR NOT?
Post # 4
I’m confused why this is even a question.
Post # 5
I don’t know. I say if you have the room in your guest list, then do it. You have still kept in some sort of touch with them for a long time so I don’t think there is anything wrong with inviting them. Now if your guest list is limited and there are people you would much rather have there to celebrate, don’t feel obligated to invite them.
Post # 6
@love108: I am of the mindset that they helped play a big role in my getting to where I am. with that said issues happened. and I am basically doing everything for the wedding from making invited with my MOH to putting playlist together. To lining up photographer, cater etc. In other words I am beyond going crazy! and wasnt sure if I was just being crazy or letting the soft part of me make a decision on an event that’s once in a life time.. for me that is.
Post # 7
I narrowed down my guest list by asking myself who I wanted in my future, not who was a part of my past.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t but I am known to hold a grudge.
Post # 9
You could write the couple a nice note to tell them that you appreciate how they helped you all those years ago and that in part because of that help you’re now happily moving on with your life. Just say thank you for the help getting where you are now, and wish them well. Such a note might help you feel like they understand you are grateful for the help they gave you, and if well written, they might just think it’s a nice to get a random, happy note saying their efforts were appreciated.
They helped you as a child, that doesn’t mean you need to invite them to watch you become a married woman and eat a sitdown dinner with your nearest and dearest. I wouldn’t invite them to your wedding. They’re basically strangers now, right?
Post # 10
Are you inviting a lot of other people from your church? If so, and you choose to exclude this couple, that may be more awkward than if you’re only inviting a few, select close friends from your church.
Post # 11
@Brielle: I will have a general church invite to the ceremony. but only a select few (3 families to be exact from the church) are invited to reception. our wedding is actually pretty small.
thanks for responses ladies 🙂
Post # 13
Are you inviting other members of this group? Will they be noticibly absent?