- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
Hi everyone, I’m a longtime lurker, first time poster. My fiance and I recently set a date for our wedding and last weekend we got together with his family to at least come up with a preliminary guest list. My FFIL is very laid back and relaxed about this whole thing, my FMIL however spent about an hour arguing with us about 10+ people who she wanted included in the guest list. Keep in mind, these are people who my fiance hasn’t seen in 10 years and who I’ve never met. My FMIL and I have always gotten along well, so I wasn’t expecting this at all.
My fiance and I told her more than once that we did not want those people there as he hasn’t seen them in a long time and I have never met them. His mom is not the type to manipulate at all but she did this time with the old standby of “Oh but Aunt Gertie would love to see you get married before she dies.” Keep in mind “Aunt Gertie” is 96 years old and is actually my fiance’s Great Aunt.
My fiance and I are paying for the majority of the wedding (my grandmother is paying for my dress & alterations) and my FILs are paying for alcohol & rehearsal dinner. In the interest of fairness, we divided up the max amount of guests we can afford into 3’s so my side gets 1/3, his side gets 1/3 & we, as a couple get 1/3. We want a big celebration and we aren’t abiding by that old adage that says “Only the people contributing financially to the wedding gets to invite anyone.”
Thankfully we have awhile before anything needs to be solidified guest list wise. I just hope she eases up on this.