- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I wrote out the tentative guest list. There are many people not on it. If you haven’t met Shannon; you’re not on the list. That means I haven’t seen you in over 2 years and we aren’t that important to each other. One person sent me a message and was all “I hope I’m invited” and I was thisclose to saying “No, not really”
Then there’s my mom’s brother Marty. I’ve tried for a long time to get him to interact with me.. I was born on his birthday and for years I sent him a card and he never sent me one.. now he is a mess and he is a filthy person and stuff so I don’t want him at my wedding. Plus his FRIEND is a know it all and I can’t stand him. You can’t have one without the other, so NO INVITE. I’m not inviting his daughter either, or her kid.
Then there’s friends that are like family.. my mom had a best friend who had 2 kids from her first marriage and 2 from her second. The first 2 kids are like my own brother and sister. Not the second two. Of the second two, I like the second kid, but I cant stand his wife. She says bad things about people in an innocent way. Then she blinks her big round eyes like “Did I say that out loud?”
So there’s 91 on the guest list. 36 are mine, 44 are his.
Everyone says it’s our day and a wedding is for you, not your guests. That’s what I want to focus on. If I add a name to my guest list out of duty, not desire, then they don’t belong there.