Post # 1
how many people should the grooms parents be able to invite and they are wanting a girlfriend of a family member to be included but we have limited seating (no girlfriends are invited across the board only engaged couples) and if she is not invited there will be some of grooms family members will not attend. in a sticky place right now. need to know what to do. the grooms parents have more invited than our side already.
Post # 3
@raspberrymom4: Are the groom’s parents contributing any money to the wedding?
If they aren’t, I’d say that you can approach this one of two ways.
1) You and your Fiance choose who to invite from their side and tell them who is and isn’t invited
2) You tell your FI’s parents how many people they are allowed to invite and let them figure it out. Tell them that they only get x number of people and unfortunately, due to space, you can’t give them more.
Post # 4
There is no set number of how many people to invite, but the easiest way is 1/3 to the groom’s side, 1/3 to the brides side, and 1/3 to the couple. However, it doesn’t work easily this way (I have 30 first cousins, and Fiance has two…so my family is a lot bigger than his and has more).
Is there anyone on your FI’s side that his family would be willing to cut? Have you tried explaining the space issue? Are the grooms family paying for any amount of the wedding?
Post # 5
@raspberrymom4: It depends on your venue size, and who is contributing. If they are contributing, they get more of a say in the guest list than if they are not.
Also, if someone is in a relationship you must invite their significant other. It isn’t polite to split up social units. Think about it – you’re celebrating love and being a couple, why would you exclude couples from being there?