Guest List advice please!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club

Donyou really want them there? 20 years from now when you are looking at your wedding picture will you be telling your kids that they were some random people from work just to fill a quota or make FI feel better? Or are they truly good friends that you want by your side on your big day. 30 people is pretty intimate, so I feel like your guest list should really be your closest friends and family. 

If your worried about drama with your colleagues, the infancy of a small wedding is a totally acceptable reason why some or all cant be invited. If their married they will most likely understand. 

Post # 5
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858 posts
Busy bee

If you are worried it would cause drama, that is your answers. An invite should be mindless. Would you rather fill that spot with a couple people that arent close, or have those two less spots? I would just not worry about inviting anyone else.

Post # 6
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110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’d say you are a genius for keeping the list that small! (28 is exactly the number on MY side of the family, and this is just brotherss, sisters and aunts… Not even cousins!!!)

And I agree, you don’t want to look at the picture and see that the extra two people were more “fillers” than original guests… even less when this will bring you tensions in your professional environment (what you said about the teaching partner makes it tough!)

Because of my personal experience and struggle keeping the list small, I would say you’re hitting the jackpot at 28 guests… Pay the extra two and consider it your peace-of-mind-fee! 

OR… how far along is the wedding? Maybe talk to FI and give him that time to come up with someone else he’d like to bring?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Franklin Plaza

amoore2:  +1  EXACTLY what I was thinking.  

Also, maybe since you’ll be coming in under 30 people, maybe your venue could throw in a little something extra.  Our venue did this.  We had to pay for 120 people, but only had 111 (113 including ourselves), so they threw in an extra hors d’oeuvre.

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