Guest list ahhhhh

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: even it out
    Cut down your list, its a fun idea but not right for a wedding to not have everyone see you marry : (21 votes)
    84 %
    it sounds fun, no one will mind if they don't even know you they will be happy to enjoy the party : (0 votes)
    that suggestion was rude your friend was trying to brainstorm with you but to do that would be rude : (4 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2151 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I think it’s a little strange to invite people to a wedding, but put them in another room for the actual ceremony. I would cut the list before sending people to a ‘during the wedding cocktail hour’. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    6273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    i would cut the list so everyone can attend both the ceremony and reception or find another location.

    Post # 5
    Member
    7090 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Um, I would be totally offended if I came to a wedding and they made me skip the ceremony and sit in another room without my date because I wasn’t a “real” friend. No, just no. Trim the list or find a new venue.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2408 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Is standing room an option?  Or just plain squeezing in more?  I imagine if you asked your venue they might be able to scooch in a few extra chairs if it’s a deal-breaker for you selecting that venue.  Also I don’t know if you want to make the ring bearer and flower girl stand up with you during the ceremony, depending on the relationship, the age, and how long your ceremony is.  Most weddings I’ve seen they’ve gone to their mom after doing their job.

    Personally I wouldn’t be offended as a guest if I was told I couldn’t bring a +1 to the ceremony but they would fit in the reception if I’d like.  If it’s local I wouldn’t have any problem telling a date to meet me at the cocktail hour, but I’d save that for local friends with non-serious relationships.

    Post # 7
    Member
    778 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    My ex’s sister had a similar issue. She invited me to reception only and not the ceremony. I was a bit hurt, but I once she told me that she would have to exclude her aunt to make room for me, I understood and dealt with it. 

    It’s your call, but it might be easiest to just cut the list. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    1793 posts
    Buzzing bee

    You need to cut your list.  Why did you choose a venue that wouldn’t accomodate everyone?  Please, do not offend your nearest and dearest with your friends suggestion.  If I arrived at a wedding and was told to go chill because there wasn’t room for me at the ceremony I would leave.

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