Post # 1
I want to have a small wedding around 50 but I know this isn’t possible as our family alone is 60 people. So I’m thinking that we can each have 20 people that are non family bringing the total of invitees to 100 and I’m not sure if that’s possible either.
So what is your breakdown of his/your family, his/your friends, his/your parents friends.
And for those of you already married how many from each group came? Or if you aren’t married how many do you expect to come?
Post # 4
His family: 40
My family & family friends: 16
FI has a large family and it’s been a bit of an issue. Originally his parents handed us a list of 75 people we *had* to invite. Our chosen venue only holds 100.
My whole family was 6 people. My parents also had a couple of close friends they wanted to invite, but my side is still less than half of FI’s family.
We only had space left for 55 friends – we probably could have invited more but whatever. Our total now is 111 and hopefully we’ll have 11 people who can’t make it! Because there is a crazy surcharge for extra people!
Post # 5
We are 160 invited 118 close family, 42 close friends. 76 on his side, 84 on my side.
Post # 6
I originally only wanted only 40 but now we’re @ our max of 50. Basically 25 each. The majority on my side is family because I come from 7. On his side, its half family and half friends.
Because I have a larger set of friends, I am planning to have a BBQ/party to celebrate our marriage @ the end of summer. I wish I could’ve invited more ppl but I was determined to stay w/in budget.
Hope this helps.
Post # 7
30 my family, 30 his family, 10 my parents friends, 10 IL’s friends, 20 my friends (10 + dates), 20 his friends (10 + dates).
It really adds up quickly, especially if you invite your friends with dates!
Post # 8
Our list is at 165 and we wanted under 150.
10 – Wedding Party & Us
85 – my family
55- his family
15 – our friends
It sucks having a huge family sometimes. We are hoping about 20 – 30 people can come just to keep costs down. But then again I don’t know who I’d hope says no.
Because we ware paying our parents didn’t get to invite anyone and they understand this as our lists are huge already.
Post # 9
We split the list fifty fifty between the two of us: he got 100 and I got 100. It was then up to us individually to deal with our parents on their lists. His parent’s ended up inviting a lot of their friends so that limited how many friends he could invite. But I have a bigger family so I think we ended up with about the same number of friends (probably about 120 friends).