Guest list counts

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
6455 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@GeorgiaBride5:  I was able to predict who would say no on my side. I was right about everyone except for one aunt who declined that I expected to say yes. DH’s side was a whole other story. We had a lot of surprising declines that were unplanned. I have no idea who came up with the general rule of declines but it seems as though they are all over here on WB. I depends soooo much on your relationships with people and how far they need to travel.

We went into it expecting about 15% to decline (just that general “rule”) but we had enough room in the budget and in the venue if they did all say yes. We actually ended up with a 30% decline (because of all the surprise declines on DH’s side). I have no idea why people would invite more than they can afford or have in the venue! I am way to paranoid to do that.

Post # 4
931 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was told 20%, based off of my aunts who have helped plan many weddings before.  They basically got that number based off of history with other weddings.

Post # 5
11626 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think it’s a smart idea to just use those kind of rules.  Like PPs have said, you know your families and their situations and can assess whether or not they are going to come, rather than using some obscure theory that people have posted online. We had a destination wedding for everyone except ourselves/our friends, and we still have about a 75-80% acceptance, even with all the travel!

Post # 6
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

We have 114 people on our list.  I will be extremely surprised if everyone says yes.  That said, we can manage it if they do (although it will be tight…)

Post # 7
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We’re inviting family from overseas and long distance friends we know will not be able to attend and are simply giving them courtesy invites. Many of our family members are in the military. We had not made a guest list before booking the venue which only holds 300 and our guest list hit 400 so we cut out children and not close friends/family. We still have about 320 invited with the courtesy invites but there is outside seating which will be used unless it’s raining. We are expecting about 270 guests to attend and will have space inside for 300 and space outside for about 25-30. People have emergencies and obligations to work, family, etc so we know everyone can not attend. 

Post # 8
6194 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

We invited 250, and got 192 who said yes (4 of whom do not count toward our minimum). We barely got any full no RSVPs- a lot of people to whom we extended +1s are coming alone, and even some people who are married or in serious relationships are coming alone (out of 110 invitations sent, only 9 were actually fully declined). Now we can invite 12 more people lol

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