(Closed) Guest List Disappointment

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I’d invite more friends, if you want them there and they are the kind of people who will be honoured and excited (and not all weird and offended to not have been on the “A” List) 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

id prob invite more friends also, just throw it out there, we are in almost the same boat you are and if we have some space after i might just throw it out there and invite some people, however, we dont have any extra invites..

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

I’d say, it depends.  Are you disappointed that certain people can’t make it?  or did you just want to have a larger reception?  I think 60 or so is very nice and does make it more intimate, you get to enjoy everyone more, nobody gets “lost in the shuffle” so to speak?  But having a B guest list is common too.  Think about what it is that you really want! 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I haven’t sent out my invites yet, but because another cousin is getting married the same day I am, my dad’s side will have to choose which one to go to.  I am a bit disappointed when I heard who wanted to go and who didn’t want to go to my wedding.

Oh well, I’ll just invite more friends and spend the money on more booze!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

The same thing kind of happened to us. We only invited about 85 people, and our final count is 69, which is lower than we expected. We had 8 people RSVP no and some people who we figured would bring a date are going stag. My FI did invite some friends, but try to avoid making it obvious because you don’t want your friends to know they were on the B list. If you are going to send more invites I would do it as quickly as possible so that it isn’t noticeable. If your RSVPs are due back in a week then I would forget it and have the smaller reception because you don’t want to make anyone feel second best.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

It sounds like you’d like more guests, so I’d invite the friends you had to leave out the first time around! If you have to diy some last minute reply cards, I don’t think it would be a big deal if they didn’t match as well.

Post # 10
Bee
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I would invite more friends!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

are u gonna verbally invite them or sending an invite?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’d invite more friends.  I barely invited any beyond our bridal party since I have such a huge family, and I’m actually disappointed that so far 100% of the fam is coming since I was hoping to add in a few more friends closer to the date.  Especially since my one aunt is being a complete BIOTCH at the moment!  Would love to cut her entire party of 7 and replace with my friends who are actually NICE to me=(

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’d consider inviting your friends. If they are close to you, I think they’ll understand if you tell them that you originally had to limit the list, but now that some of your family has RSVPd no, you’re excited to be able to invite them.  

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I say keep what you have and use the money you are saving to maybe extend your honeymoon or put towards your future, I love intimate weddings!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m in the same boat as you. I have a few family members who can’t come for various reasons and while I understand their reasons, I can’t help but feel a little annoyed/hurt by it. I don’t think we’re going to invite extra people because it’s probably better for our budget in the long run that less people are coming. I think the hardest thing for me is that nearly all of my FI’s family are coming and as a result our guest list is highly disproportionate. I think his friends and family account for about 2/3 of the list and mine are only 1/3 because my family is much smaller than his to begin with.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Invite friends if you want, not because you want filler-people.  But beware, that they will more than likely know they were B-list guests.

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