- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
So, I recently got engaged and we have been having trouble with the guest list. My father is paying for our wedding and it is being held at an extremely expensive venue. I have always dreamed of having a small intimate wedding with just my family and closest friends. My fiance has been married before and his first wedding was HUGE and elaborate. It was right out of college and he was not involved in any of the planning, etc. Now, my parents and I would like to keep this wedding smaller with around 60-70 people…it is across the country so I doubt a lot of people will even show up. My issue is, he wants to invite all of his fraternity brothers/wives and does not want to hurt anyones feelings. In order to accommodate this, I have taken a lot of people of of my list. Mind you, I don’t really care-I only have a handful of people I NEED to be there who I am close to. I understand that this is a very special day for him and he wants to share it with all of his friends, but he has done this before. The list is very testosterone heavy and I am afraid of our special day turning into a frat party. When I bring up mine and my parents feelings, he says, “what about MY feelings? What about what I want? I am the only one having to compromise.” I think he is projecting after his last situation. Our discussion last night ended with me in tears and him silently stewing. Any advice???