Guest List Etiquette – Need Advice!!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
42117 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

A wedding invitation is not a summons. I can’t imagine wanting to attend this person’s wedding. She is not part of your life.

  I wouldn’t go to her wedding, nor would I invite her to ours. I woudl simply decline and wish her well.

Post # 4
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

If she literally has made your life terrible, I would not be inviting her to your wedding nor would I be attending hers. There is no need. It seems like the friendship had run its course.

And since I see this is your first post on the Bee, welcome to the Hive 🙂

Post # 5
1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’d just leave it alone. Don’t invite someone you dislike to your wedding, and don’t attend a wedding of someone you dislike!

Post # 6
1327 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My biggest question:  Do you want to bury the hatchet? 

If you want to maintain a friendship, at least on some level, with her then I would invite her.  If you’re just over her and her drama and don’t see a future in the relationship then don’t invite her.  It’s a clear sign that you’re done with the friendship.  In that case I would not attend her wedding either, make it a nice clean break. Going to hers but not extending the invite just gives her another reason to gossip about you.  Imagine her saying “Can you believe the nerve of them, they had no problem eating my food and enjoying my open bar but can’t even send me an invite?!”  Not going to hers shows a consistant solid message that you’re just not friends with her anymore.

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