Post # 1
We are having a who-do-we-include quandary…here’s the deal. We’re getting married this summer. I just started a doctoral program last fall. I am in a doctoral cohort of about 14 people (meaning we’re in the same department starting at the same time, so we’re kind of like a team). While I’m friendly with all of them, and feel like I am getting closer to a couple of them, I would not necessarily say that I am really good friends with any of them; mostly just a working relationship so far. Since it seems like if I invite one I would have to invite the whole group, and that adds a whole chunk of people to the guest list, I was originally thinking of just not inviting anyone from this group.
BUT….I am going to be spending the next 4-5 years with these lovely people, and so I wonder if it’s a good idea to invite them as sort of a future investment since we are going to be close colleagues (and likely to become closer friends) over the next few years?
Advice? Similar situations? Any thoughts are appreciated!
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I think it would be a great gesture to invite them if you have the room/budget, but if it involves stretching yourself, I wouldn’t worry about it. It sounds like you aren’t that close to these people yet, and you shouldn’t feel obligated to invite them just because you’re going to be working with them for a long time!
Post # 4
Agreed with Amanda. If you have the resources, it may be a good move, but if it is going to stress you and/or your budget, it really isn’t necessary or anything to feel guilty about.
Post # 5
I had the exact same situation to deal with! My fiance and I are involved in a co-hort program and have all of the same classes with the same group of about 25 people. I went back and forth about who to invite and who not to invite without making our wedding seem like an elementary school birthday party (you know.. where all of the kids talk about who was/wasn’t invited lol)! We ended up choosing to invite only the people that we make a point to hang out with outside of class, be it on a Saturday night or out to lunch between classes. We ended up inviting 10 people out of the group. I was thinking the same thing as you though – we are going to be with these people for years to come so we wanted to make a point to include them in our special day! Hope this helps… I know it is a little awkward and stressful but it will all work out!