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Finally thought we were getting somewhere with our guest list, this was until my future father in law returned home from one in Yuma.

I made a little comment that I would have more guests at the wedding than my FI and his Dad gave me a dirty looked & asked me why I would say that. It's true though. Most of his family lives in England, so most of them won't to spend thousands on coming out to the wedding here. Thats why we are doing a second recepion in England as our honeymoon. His Dad knows this too, because he's been invited (insert face of total discust here)

Now his Dad wants to invite his friends, keep in mind my FI has never met or seen some in years. This woul be to "even out the grooms side"

I was horrified! I dont want this to be an issue between us later, so Im willing to be the bigger person. I gave my FI the guest list and told him " I dont care who comes you and your Dad can figure it out"

@angarrett81:  

I just wanted to first off say, thanks for listening! I can't talk to my family about this cause they would make me even more upset over this and I don't want issues with the in laws.

My FI is going to talk to his Dad today about it. I had said right from the start I'm ok if it's just my immediate family and Grand mother because it's a lot less stress. He said he wouldnt feel like we had a wedding that way.

Nobody ever tells you that weddings really arent about the bride and groom. It's turned into a game of who can we piss off the least and still live with ourselves. I've gotten to the point where I refer to the wedding as "The tumor''

Don't get me wrong I want to marry this man more than anything in the world I just dont want to plan a wedding with him. We have however started "The sanity fund" we call it that because we didnt want to com right out and call it "The drinking fund!"

Thanks again, hope all is going well for you :) 

@SapphireSun:  

Thanks for your advise  just to make it clear though, it's my future father in law that felt things should be even not my FI. My FI has been great. Actually I didn't  give him enough credit in the first place because he talked to his Dad and basically told him " This is our wedding and WE will decide who's  invited!'' I was very pleased that he stood by that. Weddings make people crazy...I've been astonished at some of the things people have said to me during this process. Really selfish things!

Thank you for caring, and although I dont think this is the end of my troubles atleast I know my guy ''has a pair'' and will stand up for us!!

Thanks again!! :)