Post # 1
So, Fiance and I are compiling our guest list we’re hoping a smallish wedding, but I have a huge family so its leaving little room for friends.
A little info:
Our venue is fire rated for 90 people, but we were told upto 110 ppl they’ll turn a blind eye. (If it rains we’ll be like sardines in a can, but oh well. If it rains we’ll all be grumpy anyway 😛 ) If its lovely outside we’ll have a smashing time.
…so, our current MUST HAVE guest list is at 106 (88 adults, 18 kids most little). At least 4 of those won’t come. We have 16 people on our B list. I’d invite them all NOW if I could because they are great people, but mostly work friends and my MOH’s parents.
So, how many people is it safe to invite? The current plan is to mail out to family over seas a month before everyone else and send out B folks after this.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t invite any more than your venue will hold. If people RSVP no, you can always extend additional invites.
Post # 4
@sonj818: I agree. Once you start getting the RSVPs back you can give out a few invites for all the can’t comes. I am sure the B list folks will understand that it is a venue size restriction, but hopefully they will never know they were on the B list.
Post # 5
I definitely wouldn’t add more until you have some no responses in your hands.
As hard as it is to do it, plan your day using your indoor backup… if it rains, you’ll be kinda bummed, but it’s still your wedding and everyone will still have a lovely time. Assuming you haven’t added those other people and aren’t crammed into the space.
You’ll have some regrets in your responses, and some unexpected ones, so you will likely be able to invite those additional guests, but I would hold off.
Will you be sending save the dates? That may help get some information back fro you as well.
Mine are going out Wednesday (we’re kinda on the wedding fast track, ha!) and I’m sure I’ll hear from a few people that won’t be able to make it so I know we can extend an invitation to others who didn’t make it to our guest list.