Guest List – Inviting coworkers?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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852 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

A lot can happen between now and your wedding….. A LOT

People can quit their jobs, move away, get married, etc.

I would worry about the guest list when you start looking at venues and know the room capacity……. The room capacity as well as your budget will play a huge role in the guest list.  I would also wait to see how these relationships continue to evolve in the next year….

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

@pinkkathryn:  californiabride is right- plenty can happen between now  & when you have to finalize your guest list. I was contemplating the same thing. I asked a guy I work with how he handled it- he only invited 3 people that he was closest to, and didnt invite everyone in his group. He said no one said anything, and as far as I can tell, no one held it against him. I think its ok to just invite the coworkers who you consider “friends” and not all of them. They really wont care all that much

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@pinkkathryn:  I am only inviting co-workers who I am close with (I can’t invite everyone – there’s 40+ people!).  I’m not even inviting everyone in my “unit” (much smaller group).  I’ve asked the ones I am inviting for their discretion and sent their Save the Dates to their homes.  We don’t discuss the wedding at work in front of others.

A lot can happen between now and then- but I would say only put down on your tentative list who you want to invite as far as co-workers.  I think inviting 30 people just because you are afraid it’s rude not to is way overthinking it – that’s a lot of $$$!!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I think it’s incredibly rude to criticize someone else’s guest list. 🙂

I would only invite the people you’re planning on keeping in touch with- those that you’re friends with. That being said, a lot of times work friends are just that- work friends, and after you leave, you lose contact with them. I agree with PPs that a LOT can happen after you leave. You only have to send invites out a few months before, so don’t stress yourself about it.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

@pinkkathryn:  agh maybe my luck is that i mostly work with men. just try not to discuss lots of wedding plans with them, bc that might give them the impression they’ll be invited. try not to talk about anything wedding related at work, as hard as that might be!

Post # 9
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1634 posts
Bumble bee

@pinkkathryn:  I did the same thing! I left my previous job eaxctly a year before my wedding. I sent save the dates to people I was really close with and knew I’d remain in touch with, and put the others as “maybe’s” on our guest list. I’m going to invite 1 of our maybe’s, the rest of them we just havent kept in touch! Plus now I have 5 new co-workers that I’d like to invite, so it was good that I didnt put the horse before the cart. lots of things change when you leave a job, so I’d say put them on a maybe list and just see! you dont have to finalize your guest list just yet 🙂

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@pinkkathryn:  Totally fine! Especially since they won’t actually be “co-workers” when invites are sent out.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Even after you finalize a venue, the guest list can be tweaked.  Mine was still being tweaked until this month, and we have had our venue since August.  Pick your venue based on the 150 number.  If your guest list goes to 170, you likely will have at least 20 declines. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@pinkkathryn:  I don’t anticipate that I’ll still be working at my current job when I send out my invitations. I’ll be deciding who to invite based on who makes any effort to keep in contact (I will make effort too but if it’s not reciprocated I won’t invite them). I only would invite like two people from my work anyway though.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Not at all! If you’re legitimately friends with those people, only invite them. The others probably wouldn’t even bat an eye if they haven’t spoken to you since you left. 

Post # 14
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327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - The Celebration Farm

I think it’s perfectly acceptable to only invite those you consider friends by the time your wedding comes around. I switched jobs in August and I’ve already lost touch with many of my coworkers who I previously considered friends. I’m sure your old coworkers will act with discression if they’re aware that not everybody was invited. 

Post # 15
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906 posts
Busy bee

i would personally only invite people who you have numbers for and text/call them. If you don’t have texting convos with them then they don’t need to be invited as well as if you don’t see them outside of work then they don’t need to be invited. If your doing a photo slideshow then if you don’t have photos taken with them then they don’t need to be invited. 

Post # 16
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99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I think what you plan to do is perfectly fine.

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