- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
Hi Ladies- I need your help with an issue I have NO IDEA how to handle!
SO, my dad has this cousin he was close to growing up, so I have invited him and his wife to the wedding. We have not yet sent actual invites, but ive sent a save the date to them with only their names on it- e.g. X and X NOT the X Family
But two days ago, their daughter posts on my wedding website (the address she must have gotten from her mums save the date), that she is looking forward to seeing me in August. Uhhh…I wasnt, because I wasnt inviting you!
So now I feel like I have to invite her and her brother to the evening only part- which I dont really like but I can live with. So to avoid confusion, I email my dad to let him know the are invited to ‘evening only’, but thier parents to the whole day. Bear in mind that neither of thier kids live at home- they’re both grown up and older than me n fact! And they live quite far away from each other, so its not like theyll all be traveling together to the wedding.
So then I get a msg back from my dad that the husband and wife are staying at the same hotel as them, as are the son and daughter, and some other guy- who I have never heard of but thinks hes coming. I cant only assume he is the daughter boyfriend or something.
So I have quite a few reasons to not invite them:
– My parents moved abroad when I have 18, and I have lived in this country with no other family (other than them) since then (24 now!). At no time has any of them ever contacted me to see how I was getting on/ i I was ok. Her not about ‘cant wait to see me in August is clearly insincere!
– the principle of it- we have a guest list of the amount of people we can afford,all consisting of CLOSE family and CLOSE friends whom we want to share our special moments on this day with. I have met this daughter twice I think, when I was 14 or 15!
– my fiance is not inviting any family to the day/ceremony who are second cousins/family we never see/dont know
I really dont know what to do in this situ girls, my dad is contributing to the wedding but we are still paying for the lions share of it!
Should I give in and invite the 4 of them to the ceremony? Or just keep my foot down and explain that im sorry if they’ve booked a hotel but they should not have presumed anything? I am NOT going to invite this random person I dont know- there I will put my foot down!!