Post # 1
So my FI and I just found out that his cousin just broke up with his girlfriend. They were together for a year. When we sent out the invites a few months back we put both the cousin and his GF’s name on the envelope but sent it to his house. The only reason that the GF was invited was because she was dating my FI’s cousin, otherwise she wouldn’t have been invited even though we are in the same social circle. The GF and I are not friends, we chat in social situations but thats about it.
My question is, “Do I still have to invite her because her name was on the Save the Date?”, or can I just send the invite to the cousin only?
I don’t want her to come thinking that shes still invited when really she’s not because she’s broken up with FI’s cousin. I’m afraid that her friend (who is coming to the wedding) will tell her that her invite must have just gotten lost in the mail and that she should just come anyways.
Post # 3
Personally, I don’t think it would be that bad if you didn’t invite her. If your cousin cut ties with her and you nor your fiance are close with her, it wouldn’t make sense to put the cousin and her in an ackward situation.
Or ask the cousin how he feels about it. That will really tell and she can make the decision to come or not.
Post # 4
I don’t think so-I was invited to a wedding with a boyfriend-we broke up-and I had no interest in going.
Post # 5
Agree. I don’t think you have to invite her.
Post # 6
I don’t think you have to invite her, either.
Post # 7
I don’t think you have to invite her either.
Post # 8
One more thing to add…..last night she sent me a message saying that she was just thinking about the wedding. I didn’t know how to respond so I brushed it off by saying that I had to go to bed. I really hope that she doens’t think that she’s still invited.
Post # 9
I’m with everyone else— you definitely do not need to invite her.
Post # 10
Well, you don’t really need to invite her, like others said (and I have no idea why she’d want to go to a wedding where her ex-boyfriend will be). If you’re worried about her thinking she’s still invited, you should address it upfront – especially if you have the same social circles. If you’re a little non-confrontational like me, I would say talk to her friend that’s coming to the wedding and ask her to relay the news. Something like “Oh, NovaScotiaBride didn’t think you’d want to come because Ex-Boyfriend will be there, so she’s not expecting you there.” You could even have your cousin talk to her (if they’re on speaking terms).
Good luck, although I think that she probably won’t come because it’ll be akward for her.
Post # 11
i agree that you don’t need to invite her. if you are worried that she’ll think she’s invited anyways, maybe you should address it. if it were me, i would have no interest in going to my ex’s family event anyways!
Post # 13
yea, I’m not the confrontational type. Everyone being from a small town (including myself) makes things even more sticky because I don’t want it to end up in a gossip situation. I thought about having the friend tell the ex-GF but she’s a major gossip bag so I don’t think I would trust her with that. I think I might just have to confront the GF personally, even though I really don’t want to.
Post # 14
yeah you wouldn’t think she’d want to come, but I think she’d be the type of person that would come anyways because her other friend is going.
Post # 15
I would not invite her but I would invite your cousin with a guest because he was expecting to bring someone from the save the date!
Is she STILL in your circle of friends?
– if no – I wouldn’t worry about it
– if yes – you may have to confront her or have cousin confront her about it!
Post # 16
no way – dont bother inviting her. shes not your friend, im sure if your cousin is her ex im sure shes cool with not being in the same event as him – seriously, i would totally understand not being invited – she should know if she’s not your friend she was only invited as your cousins guest. that’s exactly why “new relationships” i made sure to put “guest” which i know isnt too cool, but hey you never know. however, we had a strict “must be dating for one year rule” for plus ones – so really didnt occur.