Guest List – Private Facebook Event?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

From your post, it sounds like you’re still working on your guest list and don’t have a concrete idea of who you’re inviting.


i dont think you should create a facebook event for wedding stuff if you’re considering whittling down the guest list further. A facebook invite to this group stands as sort of an “expect an invitation to follow”, and an invite to one comes with the understanding that the invitees will be involved. I understand that it makes it easier on you, but if you decide not to invite certian people who were invited to the facebook group, that could get messy and hurt people’s feelings.


However, I think its different if you create a *secret* group to supplement the invitations and only invite people who will be getting an invite to the wedding. I will personally be doing this, but later on when we are closer to sending out invites.

ETA: I use facebook often, and if I got an invitation like this, I would certianly expect to be invited to your wedding down the line. I also wouldn’t really understand the “point”, so the speak, of the group. 

I used facebook to help me sort out and track down people and their spouses/children, but I kept track of the info in a spreadsheet. I’m an expert facebook creeper though, but i would find it easier to do it in spreadsheet format than trying to sort through a list of people in a facebook group.

Post # 4
14854 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Martha Stewart Weddings has an excellent guest list program also, there are a few apps out there that are easy to use. I wouldn’t use fb, even private events can show up on timelines.

Post # 5
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

Google Docs. Made it easy to share among several people and pool together names, addresses, etc., among just a select few.

Post # 6
2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

@danielle-barnett:  If you use Facebook often, I highly recommend using Weduary. It pretty much imports your contacts from Facebook; it allows non-Facebook guests to RSVP as well.

I am using Google Docs’ Form template for RSVP; linked from website, which I’ve locked with a WEDPASS. For me, I would rather pay for a custom domain than to have to pay for a private Weduary website.

However, if you are still trying to get a feel of who can come, send a message privately to each person. That’s what I did via Facebook messages and emails. A lot of people told me they won’t be able to make it; etc. I’m assuming that any non-responses = not coming.

Post # 8
7225 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@danielle-barnett:  What info are you looking to pull into one place via Facebook? Is it that you’re not sure how many children people have? I’m confused. 

Post # 11
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Your guest list shouldn’t be formed on interest. Things like a Thursday happy hour are formed on interest. You should make your guest list based on who you want at your wedding.

An explanation regarding how you feel about +1s? What is that?

If you want to create a group after you’ve sent invites, go ahead. We did so we could tell people when hotel blocks expired and things like that.

Post # 12
1968 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I used Facebook. By that point invites were out though. It was more adding notes and bits and pieces in case anyone was wondering. We had our ceremony at a park and our reception at home, so I was posting about how parking would work and stuff like that. I don’t care if it isn’t traditional, it worked for us 🙂

Post # 13
785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@danielle-barnett:  That plan seems overly complicated, and a little too informal.  As a guest, I might feel uncomfortable if I wasn’t sure of the security features that other people could see where I intend to be on your wedding date, or that other people could see that I was invited and they weren’t (I’m guessing yours is a  secret group). 

I did use facebook to ask for certain people’s addresses (by private message).  Stuff like your opinion on plus ones should be communicated in individual conversation to the people it is relevant to.

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