(Closed) Guest List Problem- children

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1917 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think your mother should help you explain to them that this is an adults only affair and that you hope they can make it.  If they make the decision not to go, because they don’t have anyone to watch their kids, just make sure there are no hard feelings.

I don’t understand why this issue gets so complicated with weddings, but you’re entitled to throw the wedding you want to have.  If you don’t want or have the budget to include every child, then you shouldn’t feel obligated to.

Post # 4
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340 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you should offer babysitting service to these friends. This way, they aren’t forced to choose between their family and attending. Also, is your wedding local? Or, would these guests be traveling in from out of town? Will it even be feasible for them to attend your wedding and leave for vacation the next day?

Post # 5
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270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2001

Depending on the ages of the children they might not need a sitter.  If they do need one, do you know of anybody they could hire?  They last wedding I went to was out of town, and we had my 13 year old nephew with the kids in the hotel room. My Aunt gave us the name of a friend of hers that lived near the hotel so in case of an emergency he could call them and be there right away.  I have no problem with adult only weddings, but if they are from out of town and you can helpout, it makes it easier for them. 

Post # 7
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3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

eek these aren’t even really children? To me children are under 12 and are much cheaper for catering. If these kids are college age, it’s a different situation.

Post # 8
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46160 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Take the wedding out of the equation. If these people were taking a long road trip, stopping overnight and wanted to go out for an adult evening, they would figure out what to do  with their children.

If they are old enough to stay on their own at the hotel, no problem.

If they need a sitter, you can provide a list or they can use professional services offered by hotels.

Do not make this your problem.

Post # 9
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270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2001

Oh my!  I wouldn’t even worry about not inviting them!  I didn’t know they were so old.  If I was the kid in this situation, I would understand that I am not invited to everything.  They are old enough to do their own thing that night.  I wouldn’t stress it at all!

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