guest list problems

posted 2 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
Member
232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Aug 30th, 2014

“I don’t want to have to cross of close friends that would actually make it a great celebration for people who haven’t spoken to us in years…”

 

If you have to remove good friends to get these people on the list, you have your answer! You have the right to be surrounded by people who actually care about you two. They might get their knickers in a twist over not being invited, but it’s YOUR wedding and you should only invite people you trust to be able to celebrate with you!

Post # 3
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6279 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

 

it is ok to not invite family that you don’t speak to.  invite the members you are close with.

i didn’t invite my mom’s brother because they had a huge falling out and i haven’t spoken to them in years.

 

Post # 4
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812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

My mom’s family has a similar issue–she and her siblings literally have factions. Her brother and youngest sister have been in a fight for years and everyone has picked a side. My mom is on the sister’s side, although honestly my aunt is difficult and crazy and her brother is probably right to want to stay away from her. Anyway, I invited all of them. My uncle and another aunt didn’t come, but that way I made it their decision, not mine. My cousins and I have basically taken the attitude that we’re not getting involved in the “grown-up’s” fight and will have our own relationships with them and with one another. I’d advise you to do the same. Odds are they won’t come, but at least you’re being the bigger person. And most adults can act appropriately. If they can’t, just give the groomsmen a head’s up to keep an eye on things and diffuse/remove people if needed. (We had to do a similar thing because of an issue between DH’s father and stepdad. Everything ended up fine.) Good luck!

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