Guest list problems, please help (long)

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Meganann23:  hey sorry you’re going through all this and it must be superstressful. Honestly I loled when you said “she said she was going to be angry at the wedding.”  Ok…let her be angry.  What’s she going to do? throw some plates around?  You can have her escorted out.  Not smile in pictures?  Oh well, no biggie.  

Someone is always going to be mad at a wedding.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Seriously, do NOT get bullied into inviting her kids. They are only distantly related to you, and you don’t like them/know them. Don’t invite them. Done. If she’s mad, well then hopefully she won’t attend!!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Trust me, you can’t satisfy everyone so at least let that person be your aunt! I think that no matter what, she’ll be awful so don’t invite her kids too.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Meganann23 I can’t believe this guy! I really hope you don’t invite him. I don’t understand why people feel entitled to an invitation or why people would insist to go somewhere they weren’t invited. Good news is. It sounds like invites have already gone out he knows he’s not invited. So I say, what’s done is done. You should invite who you want. It’s your day. If Aunt Nancy is upset, so be it. Tell your MOH or mom to keep her away from you at the wedding. You’ll be too distracted with all the festivities to even notice her sour face. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Meganann23:  

well if i was you i would or have mom or grandma tell your aunt that if she cant put a smile on her face then dont come we dont want to pay for angry people

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Also, I’m SO sorry this is happening to you! People are crrrazy.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

do not invite someone out of guilt,i did and they or i should say she tried to ruin my wedding but got her butt beat instead,but i still should not have had what happen happen on my wedding day,if i could do it over i would not have invited her and would not have cared if it hurt feelings cause she didnt seem to care about mine

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Your mom and grandma need to stand up to Aunt Nancy on your behalf. You have MUCH bigger things to deal with (your own health and well-being being #1) than Aunt Nancy putting up a stink about YOUR guest list. She will likely be FINE on the day of (*most* people tend to be on their best behavior at weddings) even if you don’t invite her kids or better yet, maybe she just won’t come! It will be okay either way. And so what if Aunt Nancy ends up being nasty at the wedding? I’m sure you have more than a few tough-as-nails, badass military friends to escort her out, right? 😀 Seriously, do whatever you can to de-stress and forget about this stupid drama. Invite only those who support the two of you 100% and leave it at that. 

 

Hugs to you and I wish you strength through this time apart from your FH. 

 

Post # 11
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460 posts
Helper bee

Uninvite Aunt Nancy – problem solved. There is no excuse for what her son said to you, and even LESS excuse for her to expect him to be invited after that. If she cannot acknowledge this day is about you & your fiancé joining your lives & support that vs it being a family reunion, then she doesn’t need to be in attendance. 

And from one prior servicemember to another, thank you for your service and sacrifice. I truly hope that your wedding day is a blissful experience filled with love, support and pure joy.

Post # 12
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I say just let it go.  Aunt Nancy will just have to be upset.  If it bothers her that much she can just not go.  You shouldn’t have to be uncomfortable at your own wedding to make her happy.

I’m not inviting a relative who insulted me and cursed at me on multiple occasions but I am inviting her sisters (who are super nice) to my wedding.  The sisterrs haven’t said anything about it but if they do, I’m going to take the same stance and say – I’m sorry you’re upset and I understand if you won’t be there to celebrate with us.

 

 

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You have sacrificed a lot for America, a lot for that pr*^& cousin. Proof that age and wisdom are not synonymous.  If he is the kind of person that repays that by emotionally and psychologically sabotaging you then, f$%^& him.  As far as your Great Aunt, my Grandma Nancy says there is one in every family. Don’t let her bad apple spoil the whole bunch.

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