- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
We are having a late ceremony with hors d’oeuvres at my parents house at 5:30, and then a dance at a reception hall with a bar, dj, and late night light buffet. At the dance will also be the speeches and the cake. I have a huge family, and want a really small wedding. Part of the reason is the cost, and another is because I just want a small intimate wedding.
What I would like to do is have a small wedding, with only us, immediate family, aunts, uncles and the wedding party, and we are already at 70 people.
I want to invite cousins to the reception only, but I don’t want to offend anyone. I thought I had it all figured out, until someone said to me “If they are coming from more than three hours away, you have to invite them to your ceremony.” Now I am stuck. ALL of my family on my mother’s side is more than 3 hours away, and if I invite all of them, then I have added about 30+ people to the guest list. And my father’s family is local, so if I invite the cousins from far away, then I really ought to invite the ones who are local, as I see them more than I see the far away ones. My cousins on my father’s side are the same age as my aunts on my mothers side. I have cousins who are grandparents, and I am closer to some of my second cousins than my first cousins. If I invite everyone who meets the advice I have received, I would about 140 people at my wedding, which is NOT the small, intimate wedding I envisioned!
My problem is that I love my family. I see them yearly at the reunion, and thanks to Facebook, I am able to talk to them quite a bit. I would love them to be part of my day, but I am not sure how to include them in a way that they can still feel part of the day, and I don’t have to say my vows in front of 140 people.
PLEASE HELP ME!!! When I get stressed, I get acne. The wedding is 5 months away, and my face looks like a connect-the-dots already!