Post # 1
i wanted to see if inviting a few old coworks would be strange? i havent worked with them in 6years but i did work with them for 5years. I havent really kept in contact with them becuse i worked so much after i left and none of them had facebook at the time, i have been talking with them all on and off for a while now i dont know if it would be weird if i invited them to the shower/wedding (my mom also wants to know the answer shower question)
Post # 4
I wouldn’t. You may have worked with them for five years, but that was six years ago and you haven’t really kept in touch.
Post # 5
It can appear really gift grabby to invite people you don’t even really know anymore.
I would save the money and do something for people you actually have a relationship with.
Post # 6
I like the guideline “if you’d invite them to your birthday party, invite them to your wedding.” I am inviting a former coworker I haven’t seen in about 4 years, but she moved to California and I stayed in Florida. We do keep in touch and she’s also friends with FI and one of our bridesmaids. I think it depends on your personal relationship. For what it’s worth, I’m also inviting my elementary school best friend who I probably haven’t seen in 20+ years, but I couldn’t imagine not doing so.
Post # 7
it’s hard to tell…although time has caused you to loss contact do they still mean alot to you? If so then invite them
Post # 8
Has there been no contact at all, or have you at least touched base here and there via phone call to catch up.
Post # 9
@AndysCraftsNmore: I think this is one of those that could really go either way. I don’t think it looks gift grabby (I don’t know where people got the idea that always if you’re invited you have to give a gift). Do you really want them to be there? Could you care less? luluvohn has some pretty great advice there too
Post # 10
it doesn’t sound like you have a relationship with them so I don’t see why you would invite them