(Closed) Guest list question, plus the plus one

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

As far as friends go, most people understand that you can’t invite everyone in the world if you’re having a small wedding.  As long as the friends who are invited are your closest (i.e. you’re not skipping anyone who’s closer to you than those invited), then no one should really complain.  It gets to be a sticky situation if you have a very close-knit group of friends and invite some from that group but not the whole group; so if you’re in that situation, see if you can stretch the guest list to accommodate.

For people coming from out of town, if they have any kids still living at home, it would be quite expensive to hire an overnight babysitter.  The rule I followed across the board is if they’re out of town and have kids living at home, the kids are invited too.  Also if a 20-something is no longer living with his parents, he’s allowed to bring a guest, but if he’s still living with his parents, he get invited on the same invitation with his parents and doesn’t get to bring a guest.

I had two young adults still living with their parents who added their steady bf/gf to the response card, and even though that technically went against my “rule” I let it slide because I had enough declines to be able to accommodate the extra person.

I hope that helps!

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