Post # 1
We’ve budgeted for 125 guests at our venue and we are currently at 142. With the average “10-20%” drop off, does this seem like a safe number to send Save the Dates and Invites too? I suppose we could make it work if we end up with 130, but anywhere over that would break the bank.
Thanks for your advice!
Post # 2
is that 142 friends/family? or 142 friends/family/coworkers? I invited 90 people and 50 showed up. 65 said they were and RSVPD and everything, but life happens. I wouldn’t invite any more people. But you should definitely be ok.
Post # 3
Invite the number of guests that you can reasonably host. You could probably get away with inviting 130-135, but anything over that and you’re playing with fire. You can’t uninvite people so play it safe.
Post # 4
The whole concept of an average decline rate is BS. Invite what you can afford and what your venue can hold. Sure, some brides end up with a significant decline rate, and then there are some who have a 99% attendance rate.
Don’t bank on guests declining. You’re just going to end up with a headache and more stress in the long run.
Post # 5
If you’re budgeted for 125, invite 125, not more, unless you can pay for any extras.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I’m only sending save the dates out to must-have people. I have a 100 person limit and cannot go over or they won’t have a chair to sit on!! I’m inviting exactly 100 people and then I’ll send out additional invites if someone declines. I’m not sending a save the date to anyone that might be on that second set of invites… so those will probably go out to 80-90 people.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2015 - The Fairmont, SF
I think you should be alright. I’m personally a worrier, though, so my FI and I have agreed to only send save the dates and invitations to 80 people at first (the maximum that our venue can hold) and for every decline that we get, we’ll send out an invitation. Basically, for every family member that declines, a friend can come and there’s no way we’ll end up with an unpleasant surprise! 😀
Post # 8
As others have said invited 125 but, you could have the extra 20 or so invites ready to go and send one out as your get a “no” response.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t go over 130 or, at most, 135, if that’s all you can reasonably handle. There are weddings that have 100% acceptance rates.
Post # 10
Pebba1027: Don’t invite more people than you can host.
Post # 11
Pebba1027: We took into account the distance that many of our family would have to travel and the time of year.
We invited 256 & ended up with 154 acceptances. We were shooting for under 175.
Post # 12
Pebba1027: I wouldn’t necessarily count on a 10-20% decline because you honestly never know. We invited 80 people and we had ONE person not attend (and it was my grandma who had to cancel last minute due to health issues or she would have been there for sure). I thought we would have many more declines since it was on the labour day long weekend. Better to be safe and invite only the amount of people you can afford!
Post # 13
I had a 99.99 percent acceptance rate… Turns out January people are very free to attend… I only had three declines… So be weary I was secretly hoping to get at least 12 as there were people we had to invite out of obligation but nope all coming ..
Post # 14
Yes, you’re too far over. We invited around 133 and 130 came. If I were you I would not invite more than your absolute max, which is 130.
I’ve seen too many threads on here where brides are saying, “Help! We didn’t get as many ‘no’ responses as we thought and now we’re overbudget/over capacity.”
Post # 15
I personally would not invite more than I can host. What if they do all Halloween to say yes?