(Closed) Guest list shrinking …

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@naturedoc1112:  sorry to hear this, it is disappointing when people you thought you be there cant come now.  I am sure on the day it will be amazing and you will get to spend lots of quality time with your guests that could come. One small bonus is that you havent had to pay for your catering already, I am also having a DW and I have to pay in full for catering 3 months out the number of guests I think will be coming so Im hoping a lot of people dont pull out at the last minute.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Don’t worry it will be a beautiful day you’ll get married and have a great time. The venue being you expected 100 will just have more room for your guest to dance and it will be a little easier to say hi to all your guests too.  

Don’t let the anxiety of your dress and BM’s dress get you down you’ll still feel and look like a 1,000,000,000.00$ in your dress and your BM’s will look great in your pictures too. 

relax its okay to get nervous right before the big day but just relax and have fun concentrate of what this is for … you and your fiancé to get married and the rest will fall into place. I promise you’ll have a great memorable day 😉 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@naturedoc1112:  I have to pay for a minimum amount of people to reserve my room at the restaurant anyway so hopefully I can just pay for the minimum and hope that at least that many show. 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That sucks… Kinda glad to know I’m not the only one in the same boat.

I’m all for a small intimate wedding, but mine’s getting ridiculous. A few of FI’s friends (local!!) pulled out too so that shranked our numbers even more.

We’re pulling out the B-list invites just to bulk it up a bit. We have to pay for 50 pax catering and right now, including vendors, we don’t even touch 40.

 

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Aww, I’m so sorry to hear that.  It’s tough, especially when your guests have to travel and it’s a weekday wedding.  I’m sure they really wanted to be there, but the logisitcs held them back. 

You’ll have a great wedding with those who can make it, and everything will be wonderful.  After all, you do get to marry the man of your dreams, right?  🙂

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You’ll still have a great time, and honestly, you’ll have more time to talk to everyone! My first wedding – we invited about 100-120 people, and we had about 50-60 there. And it was awesome that way! It was way more intimate and we really were able to greet everyone and chat. We didn’t feel rushed trying to get around to everyone.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

I think the smaller guest list will end up making it a much more intimate event and you’ll be able to spend more time talking to each of your guests.  This will make it so much more special for both you and the guests who can attend– I really think this is a blessing in discuise. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We invited about 125 and we’re looking at 75 max at this point.  Everyone has to travel except for about 5 people, so I guess that’s a huge part of it.  It’s so hard not to be disappointed, though, so I understand where you’re coming from!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hey There,
I am in almost the same exact boat… We are getting married where we live and our families are from two different states… I totally understand that people can’t afford to make it but I was hoping that some more of my friends/family would come…. anyways I was wondering the same thing… Our venue is pretty big and I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions on room layout or anything and I was also thinking about the DJ too… with that small amount of people ( my list is around the same number) … do you think that having a traditional DJ type program would still work? I think it would be kind of lame to have a DJ spinning tracks and no one dancing…. maybe i’m overthinking it… but any suggestions would be great!! naturedoc1112  I hope I’m not hijacking your post too much 🙂

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@naturedoc1112:  I would be glad, just think of all the money you will save. I wish most of my guest list wouldn’t come and we only inivted 60 people! LOL Sorry you are sad, you will have a beautiful day and willmake a beautiful bride.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh, that one is a serious bummer. This happened to me, too. I knew that many of ours would have travel issues, and conflicts, and so forth, but there were some regrets that really took me by surprise and disappointed me. We added quite a few from the B list, and so if you go by the total number of invites sent, I think we ended up with roughly half. 

But once the day came, I couldn’t imagine it any other way. I can honestly say I didn’t really miss the people who weren’t there – I was too busy enjoying the people who were!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We invited 105.   RSVP’s due tomorrow.   So far we have 35 confirmed.   There might be one or two more coming.   I am pretty unhappy about it.   Its my first time down the aisle at 47 and I supported a ton of people over the years.  I am a little crushed at some of them just ticking no and sending it back without a call, a note, nothing.   Makes me feel like they don’t care about me.

 

 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MrsTimmy:  Don’t go by who gets their rsvp to you by the deadline. You’ll have to chase down a lot of people – people who genuinely care and want to be there but completely flaked on sending the rsvp back. You’ll get lots more, don’t worry. 

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