Post # 1
Our venue has a MAX capacity of 140. Our goal with budget in mind was around 120. So when we sat down with the Save the Date list we doled them out 30 for us (bride’s parents), 30 for groom’s parents, 60 for Bride/Groom. We were very careful with our list and had to make some cuts. Ours ended up mostly immediate family who lives in town as well as some out of town relatives. Daughter and I sit down Saturday to assemble and address the invitations. All of a sudden there are a couple of people on the Bride/Groom and Groom’s mother’s lists that were “added on”. A couple of DH’s out of town relatives that he said no way would they come say they are coming. Going through a list of “probables” with Groom’s mom and the Bride/Groom we are at 134! First, I am freaking out that we are going to be over seating capacity (not to mention budget!). Second, I am pissed that his mom just decided to “add” some people on and had my daughter send out save the dates. I contacted the co-ordinator at the venue, she said don’t stress out yet, sometimes people you think are for sure can’t come for some reason or another. They have a lot of OOT guests, hopefully some of the people she thinks will ccome won’t !
Post # 3
we invited 137. i wanted 120 or under. we’ve had 14 no so far and are still waiting for 60 responses.
i’m sure we will be under 120. people who i thought would come said no and people who i thought wouldn’t said yes.
you never know. but you should never invite more than you can budget for. did you have a talk with your FMIL when she did this? did you tell her she will have to pay for her additional guests that weren’t in your budget?
Post # 4
So are you inviting 134 people then? That spunds fine for about 120 actually coming, generally about 10 – 15% won’t make it. We invited about 160 and have 129 coming (although quite a few of the declines were overseas guests that I didn’t expect to come in the first place)
Post # 5
@ajillity81: LMAO, its not the OP’s wedding, its her daughter’s. OP seems very invloved though.
OP I dont see this a being a problem because chances are if you invite 134, all will not come so you should be well under your max number and within budget.
As for your daughter’s FMIL, I think the only person to properly address this issue is your further son in law .
I’m guessing that you the parents and footing a heavty part of the bill for the wedding given that you the parents in total have been allocated 50% of the list. I know that this might be the tradition but wow, you guys are taking so much of their list. I personally could not deal with this and I guess that is why my FI and I are paying for our wedding ourseleves. Out of our 120 guests, our parents got 3 each.
Post # 6
We invited 58, goal/guestimate was 48, right now we have 45 yes and 11 no rsvps. Waiting on 2 more responses. We actually are thinking of inviting one more couple as well, so it seems like we will be pretty right on either way. Most of my family couldn’t come because they are all on the other side of the country or deployed in another country. Only 8 of the guests attending are considered ‘brides side’, so hopefully people get the hint when there aren’t enough chair on the groom’s side lol
I think it was easier with a small wedding since we knew most of the people who could or couldn’t come before we even sent the invites. I can’t imagine how stressful it must be to keep track of 120+ guests