Guest List Stress Rant

posted 3 years ago in October 2013
  • poll: What was your actual guest count compared to "guestimate"?
    Over : (6 votes)
    23 %
    Under : (10 votes)
    38 %
    Right on : (10 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6274 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    we invited 137.  i wanted 120 or under.  we’ve had 14 no so far and are still waiting for 60 responses.

    i’m sure we will be under 120. people who i thought would come said no and people who i thought wouldn’t said yes.

    you never know.  but you should never invite more than you can budget for.  did you have a talk with your FMIL when she did this?  did you tell her she will have to pay for her additional guests that weren’t in your budget?

     

     

    Post # 4
    Member
    480 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    So are you inviting 134 people  then? That spunds fine for about 120 actually coming, generally about 10 – 15% won’t make it. We invited about 160 and have 129 coming (although quite a few of the declines were overseas guests that I didn’t expect to come in the first place)

    Post # 5
    Member
    107 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @ajillity81:  LMAO, its not the OP’s wedding, its her daughter’s. OP seems very invloved though.

    OP I dont see this a being a problem because chances are if you invite 134, all will not come so you should be well under your max number and within budget.

    As for your daughter’s FMIL, I think the only person to properly address this issue is your further son in law .

    I’m guessing that you the parents and footing a heavty part of the bill for the wedding given that you the parents in total have been allocated 50% of the list. I know that this might be the tradition but wow, you guys are taking so much of their list. I personally could not deal with this and I guess that is why my FI and I are paying for our wedding ourseleves. Out of our 120 guests, our parents got 3 each.

    Post # 6
    Member
    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We invited 58, goal/guestimate was 48, right now we have 45 yes and 11 no rsvps. Waiting on 2 more responses. We actually are thinking of inviting one more couple as well, so it seems like we will be pretty right on either way. Most of my family couldn’t come because they are all on the other side of the country or deployed in another country. Only 8 of the guests attending are considered ‘brides side’, so hopefully people get the hint when there aren’t enough chair on the groom’s side lol

    I think it was easier with a small wedding since we knew most of the people who could or couldn’t come before we even sent the invites. I can’t imagine how stressful it must be to keep track of 120+ guests

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